So here's what my DD told me tonight...

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So here's what my DD told me tonight...
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Thu, 01-05-2012 - 12:27am

So I got a phone call from my DD this evening.

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Thu, 01-05-2012 - 2:21am

Shirley, I know how you must be feeling. My dd has always preferred older guys. And as she has gotten older the age difference has gotten greater.

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Thu, 01-05-2012 - 4:18pm

If your dd has not dated a lot, or had a steady bf before, I would be concerned.

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Thu, 01-05-2012 - 4:34pm

Thanks Elspeth and Sam for your insights and advice.

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Thu, 01-05-2012 - 5:30pm

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Fri, 01-06-2012 - 10:36am
Oh Shirley, your DD really keeps you on your toes these days. I'm with you that I won't be too happy with that much of an age gap. It would make be uncomfortable for all the reasons others had mentioned. I know that there are relationships like this that do work out but normally it's because the younger part of the couple is very mature for their age. Do you feel your DD is more mature? If she is then maybe this has a chance. If not well, it's likely going to end unless the guy is really immature. All relationships involve risk of possible heartbreak. I guess our role as parents of grownup kids is to be there to listen, provide advice if asked & intervene if there are problems involving abuse.

Dee
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Fri, 01-06-2012 - 11:11am

I know many couples with a 10 year difference or more and they are all doing well. In fact, I know two with the woman 11 and 12 years older. One couple has been together 26 years and the other, 45.

Plus,now a days, people are taking better care of themselves. No one knows what the future will hold for anymore; to object to a couple just because "maybe" the older one will have to be cared for one day by the younger is not a valid reason. I have seen it happen the other way around.

Excuse me from saying this but, from what you have written about your daughter, I have gotten the impression that she is a young 23 year old.

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Sat, 01-07-2012 - 12:49pm

Thanks again everyone for your input.