son and DIL in deep trouble

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Registered: 01-30-2007
son and DIL in deep trouble
Mon, 07-22-2013 - 8:16pm

Hi.  I've been on here before talking about my son.  I'm afraid that he's headed for a divorce, they've been married less than a year.  The money problems and other issues that they have, I'm not sure they can work through.  They had a baby a few months ago and I'm elated to be a grandmother, but I'm so sad and really angry, with my DIL.  My son is not perfect but she isn't either.  He has accepted her for who she is, but she can't accept him, evidently.  She has this paranoia that because some of their friends are getting divorces that they will too.  Well, her fear is real, but not for the right reasons.  First off, one of the couples the husband is bi-polar.  Well, like I said my son is not perfect, he has a bit of a temper (he has my husband to thank for that!)  but he is definitely not bi-polar!  She takes advice from all the wrong people and makes up more problems that aren't even there.  Their biggest issue is about money and she can't seem to understand it.  They got in a fight last night and she took the baby and ran off to her mommy.  UGGGHHH!!!   Like I said, I am so happy to be a grandmother, but not like this!  I don't know if they'll stay married and if they don't I'll never see my granddaughter because she will go live with mommy and daddy (they are moving) and will be really far away!   I wish I could say that my son will get custody because he is the only one contributing financially to this family, but I know that isn't how it works!  So, please don't judge me, I just need someone to talk to.