Their stuff

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Sat, 08-11-2012 - 3:47pm

How much of your kids stuff are you still storing for them?

I do not have a whole lot.  I just cleaned and packed up DD2's old room which we have been using for storage. 

The most I have is of DD3s.  I have a desk of hers, she got it in college but had no room for it in the apartment she moved into after college.  Next month she will we moving from a one bedroom to a two bedroom apartment so will be taking it. She also has a plastic storage unit, it is in pretty bad shape so if she does not want it it is going into the trash.  She also has a few things that she left in her old closet, I am not sure what but  with her move and our purge we will come to a decision on what to do with it.

  DD2 did a very good job of taking everything with her when she moved.  We do have a computer monitor here that she bought.  We are donating all of our old computers with this purge so will probably donate it also.

  DD1 like DD3 left a lot of things in her closet when she moved out but a couple of years I went though it and gave it all to her when I wanted to use her closet for other things.  I did find a box with her tax forms from when she still lived her.  I told her that she could continue to store it her if she wanted to.

 When we lived in Turkey we bought every one a Turkish blanket.  They are very warm and heavy and not much need here in TX so they did not take them when they moved out and we still have all of them.


  Then there are a couple of unknowns.  We have a sleeping bag and a body size pillow.  I do not know who they belonged to but told them if no one claims them or wants them, they are going into the donation box.


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Sat, 08-11-2012 - 6:56pm
DS20 is still in college so quite a bit for now; the condo doesn't hold that much so he just has seasonal clothes, and will swap as it gets colder. And I have much more from my parents' house I will give him, but again, no room. If he wants, there's a Kitchenaid mixer, a blender, a food processor...he loves to cook so it is possible he'll want those and they will fit. But lots of glasses, dishes, etc. - not at this time. And he, too, has 3 body pillows that are still in his room.
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Registered: 06-16-1998
Sat, 08-11-2012 - 9:55pm

I don't think I'm storing anything for dd. There are some things belonging to ds still here but he may not even want them. There are a few boxes of things from childhood through college. I think his mortarboard(s) and cords from graduations are there and I don't know what else; and there may be some toys too. I could probably toss all of it and he wouldn't care. Then in the garage I think I have some dishes and silverware from my mom's that he said he wanted back when she died. Its not taking up room that I need for something else so not a problem for me to keep it for him, for now anyway. They live in a very small apartment with no storage, if I gave him an ultimatum he would probably say get rid of it but later when he has a larger home he might want it, so I'll store it for the time being. I also have a coffee table of his. That is kind of in the way, I may eventually give him an ultimatum on that.

My grandmother's china and crystal are intended for dd and she likes the idea of having them...when the time comes for her to take them we'll see if she has room for them.

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Sun, 08-12-2012 - 12:35pm

I don't think we have anything left-but then my kids are older & probably more settled than most others on the board. They each have their own homes-houses-& married.

We did issue an "Ultimatum" a few years ago-anything left here would be taken over, donated or disposed of. They each came home & selected what they wanted to keep & the rest was either taken over, donated or disposed of...university notes not taken were burned. Karen used to collect 'royal' stories-& seems to me they are in the bottom of the cedar chest-somehow, Princess Diana stuff was not burnable. I also kept 1 or 2 of her textbooks (she got her nursing degree-I only got a diploma so they were good to read/reference). Some of the things that belonged to us-but were meant to be passed on went already-including some of the books they had as kids went to their kids (first asked-first got in many cases)-there were even a couple books that belonged to me or Mike ("Yes, m'dear, they did have printing presses when Grandma was a little girl"). We both came from military families so purging was a regular part of our childhoods. And it was part of their childhood too-we weren't military, but the first 15 years of marriage involved a lot of moving-& since we paid for our own moves-we had to cut down on the weights we had! (we paid by the pound X distance= a LOT of money) We had so much stuff left from their years in university-but not wanted in their homes-that we were able to help a couple nieces & nephews go away to school!

So we have virtually nothing that belonged to them-so I certainly cannot blame them for the full house I own!

Nora

 

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Registered: 04-29-2000
Sun, 08-12-2012 - 1:20pm

Oh my...we have far too much of their stuff still.  Perhaps that is why we haven't decided to move yet.  The time that happens, SO MUCH stuff will have to be gone through and purged, sold or donated or whatever (their stuff and ours?).  Our children are not so settled in their lives that they can take all their stuff.  First of all, Michael is in Berlin.  He literally took his laptop and a suitcase of clothing with him when he left here 2-1/2 years ago.  We have a lot of his books, and well, some other items of perhaps sentimental value in his former bedroom closet.  Not a lot of stuff, but still...not yet something we feel we can just dispose of.  At this point in time we assume he is coming back to Canada (or North America?) when he wants a different job.  If someday he does actually settle into a larger home (maybe buy a house?) he can take his stuff.  If he doesn't before we decide to move from here, well...that is something he will have to figure what to do with his stuff. 

Our garage holds a fair amount of my chidlren's things - some kept there for safekeeping as they can't yet take the stuff just yet.  There are a few furniture items my dd had in her first apartment which perhaps some day (?) she'll take again to furnish another apartment.  (She and a friend are looking for a place to share...all depends I suppose how much furniture the friend already has though).  Eric owns some old large video game machines...(like that seen in gaming parlours - I can't remember the terminology to describe these machines or where they are kept for public use? Sigh).  Anyway he has an interest in these old machines - he was able to restore some of them to working order again.  Ray has been an aid to this interest of Eric's - agreeing to store them here in our garage and seems to like them as much as Eric does.  They might be eventually sold....frankly, I haven't stuck my nose in to know more about what is to happen to these machines...all I know is we have them here for now. 

Some things in our garage of our children's are not things they will want - but rather things I kept - like toys of theirs that I thought were such wonderful toys and might one day be useful for their children(?!).  However, I am now not against some day selling or giving away these items since I can't count on their being any grandchildren!   There are a number of Christine's toys that she was very much attached to sentimentally even in the early years after she outgrew them so she begged us to keep them.  Now she is past that point and doesn't care what we do with the toys, but we have them in boxes on high and not easily accessible shelves in the garage so we haven't bothered yet to get them down and to have a garage sale with these items.  So we still have some of their things.  It's far easier now to not think too much about them - as long as we are in this house.  I do wish that my children would somehow get a more settled life - have homes of their own - have a partner.  Then again, regardless, I suppose they will have to decide what of their things in this house are worth wanting to hold on to.  We will all get to that point someday.  For now...well...?

Shirley

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Sun, 08-12-2012 - 1:39pm

  During our military years having an garage was a rarity.  We loved it so much better having one that we made it a priority when we bought this house.  We let our DDs know early on that we were not giving up our garage for "stuff'  Anything that they wanted to store here had to fit in the house or storage shed in the back yard.  It was a tight fit when DD3 moved back her after college since she lived in an apartment and  most of he furniture was hers but she squeezed it in. 

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Sun, 08-12-2012 - 2:58pm

We have a number of children's books and games on shelves in the library but I don't consider those as being stored for my kids. They are there to be available for whomever wants to play with them...a few weeks ago there were a couple of young children (maybe 6 & 8yo?) visiting and they played with several of the games to keep themselves entertained while the adults sat around talking endlessly. These board games don't get used very often but its really nice to have them when kids come over.

The books are mostly the favorites of my kids and some of them classics, and they range from Beatrix Potter and Dr Suess to Roald Dahl and Laura Ingalls Wilder and all of the American Girl books that were available when dd was in elementary years to titles in the young adult category. I've purged many of their books over the years but still have a lot....books are something I have trouble parting with, especially the type that lend themselves to being read repeatedly. I guess I'm saving them for the grandchildren that my kids say that they intend to present someday. Said grandchildren probably will live far away and won't spend a lot of time in my library reading those books but when they do---I'll be ready!

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In reply to: shirley_v
Sun, 08-12-2012 - 7:27pm

Yes, we have some board games too - they haven't been taken out in ages.  And like you, I  have a hard time parting with books.  I did save a number of my favourite children's books - again, with the hope I'd be reading them to grandchildren...!  But also I just love children's books...the illustrations and some of the very wonderful stories.  One of my favourite children's authors of board books is Sandra Boynton.  I love her illustrations but I've also bought a whole lot of her books that include CDs of her music that go along with the book illustrations.  I bought these way long after my kids grew up (they've never heard or seen these ones!) but again, hopeful I'd be playing the CDs with my grandchildren.  They are such goofy fun songs. 

Beatrix Potter books...for some reason I never introduced my kids to those books, but then I may have tried with Christine but I am not sure she was that taken with them.  However, after my kids grew up, I took much more interest in her books probably too because of the movie made of her life not so long ago.  I think her illustrations are so dear.  But then I love many illustrations in many children's books...

Maybe I've asked this before - did anyone read those "Frances" books to your children?  About a little girl badger and her mom and dad (and later her brother joins the stories in the books).  I absolutely loved those books - such sweet stories that had 'lessons' to be taught but oh so gently and with humour. 

Shirley

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Sun, 08-12-2012 - 8:29pm
My kids aren't settled yet, and it might be a very long time for Zack since the army has him for six more years, so I have a lot of their stuff here yet. James and his girlfriend are living in a tiny place now but will be moving into a nice sized house next month so his things will be getting the ultimatum then.

Don't feel too bad about paying with your children's books - if it weren't for the people who gave their kids books to goodwill Wyatt wouldn't have near as many as he has. At every opportunity Nicki stops to get him new books and the 25 cents each is all she has been able to afford for most of the past year.
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In reply to: elc11
Sun, 08-12-2012 - 8:35pm

Frances the Badger sounded familiar so I googled it. She looks familiar but I'm pretty sure that we didn't own any of those books, possibly we borrowed some from the public library for a few weeks at a time.

I had a couple of Beatrix Potter books when I was a child. They didn't seem to come with me on my various moves (while some other books did, including William's Shadow which actually belonged to my oldest brother when he was quite small) but I remembered loving those stories so I bought most or all of them for my kids.

 

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In reply to: nora_mcl
Mon, 08-13-2012 - 1:50pm

I remember Francis-read them to my kids, & when Adam was finished with them, I believe they were passed along to my kids for their kids. In this house, many of the books our kids enjoyed were given to theirs to enjoy. Now all 6 of the grandchildren do read-even little Toby-so very often they will bring their own books-sometimes they bring books that they want to exchange for the ones we have here, they barter with Uncle Adam.

Both Mike & I had books from our childhood-& all of them have been passed on to the grandkids. We still have very old books-inherited when Mom moved to the Retirement Residence-but they will get passed on to whoever requests them.

Nora