Trying not to worry...

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Trying not to worry...
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Fri, 08-26-2011 - 2:41pm

and failing miserably! I'm very worried about my dd in NYC. I know that she is not one to keep up with current news, and to have kind of a "it can't happen here" attitude. So as I hear more about Hurricane Irene and its potential effects on NY I get concerned. I sent her an email Thursday night with a map of the evacuation zones and emergency supplies list etc. Then this morning Enrique sent her an email with a list of supplies to get. She didn't reply to either of us so I called her on the phone...according to her the weather is beautiful today, what's all the fuss about? Hello?!

She lives just outside of the mandatory evacuation Zone A so its possible that her neighborhood could be evacuated. She was still planning on going to work Sat night and Sunday morning because she needs the money to pay her rent...she wasn't aware that the entire public transportation system is getting shut down on Sat afternoon...so I don't think the restaurant will be serving customers at those times!

She was out with friends when we talked so I didn't get the idea that she will rush out to buy supplies, I sent her an email urging her to do so as soon as possible before they get sold out. From our phone conversation it sounded like she believed me that she needs to prepare, just not sure if she believes me about the urgency to do it sooner rather than later.

Besides the worry for her physical safety I just worry that she doesn't take these things seriously enough and will do something foolhardy. I guess I will feel better when/if she tells me that she has put together her emergency kit and has a backup place to stay in case she (and the cat) has to leave her building.

I do pretty well at not worrying about her on the day to day level but something like this is harder to let go of. I guess we never stop worrying about our kids, do we?

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Fri, 08-26-2011 - 6:23pm

Elspeth, I had no idea that there was that much warning of danger for NYC with this hurricane Irene!

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Sat, 08-27-2011 - 1:56pm

I've spoken with dd a couple of times since I posted. She was able to get some supplies, no flashlights to be found but she got candles, water, and some non-perishable food. By last night she was definitely taking this seriously. She is extremely stressed, partly due to the impending storm but more because her employer plans to be open on Saturday night and Sunday and expects her to show up to work. The public transportation has already shut down so she would have to take a cab which she cannot really afford. The weather will probably be okay at the time her shift would start but according to the weather forecast, be deteriorating rapidly at the time her shift ends. If the winds reach a certain speed the bridges will be closed which would essentially trap her at work. She knows that she should not risk it but fears reprisal at work. I can't believe that her employers would put the employees in such a difficult situation. For her sake I hope that they reconsider their decision.

As you can imagine we're keeping a pretty close watch on the news.

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Sat, 08-27-2011 - 6:06pm

Elspeth, I've heard some news on the radio this morning about the coming storm which must have begun now in N.Y.C. ? I was just reading a report of expected weather for the city, but haven't read anything right up to date so far.

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Sat, 08-27-2011 - 8:26pm

She called us at around 3pm her time to say that she definitely was not going in to work. She works at a restaurant and as of that time they were still planning on having dinner service. (and I cannot imagine that a lot of people will want to go out in the storm but what do I know?) The boss sounded "disappointed" that dd would not be working, it seemed that they expected to be short-staffed so maybe other employees said they wouldn't work either? Dd felt bad in a way, but relieved to have it settled and to know that she still has a job--she sounded much better than she had in the previous 24 hours. Part of the problem is that during the early hours of the shift the weather probably won't be to bad but is predicted to get bad around the time that she would finish work around midnight. Then they wanted her back at 8am Sunday to work the "brunch" shift; and she wouldn't be able to get home so would need to stay on a co-worker's couch. Dd lives less than a block from a mandatory evacuation zone, and the restaurant is across the street from the edge of an evacuation zone. The zones are identified based on risk of flooding from storm surge. I'll be interested to learn if the restaurant was busy for dinner, and if they opened on Sunday morning.

I believe she intends to stay indoors until the storm passes which will be sometime late afternoon on Sunday I think. It seems like the highest winds will be on Sunday morning from about 6am until noon, as of the current info. Of course that could change...I suppose that she will call us if she gets anxious or has a problem although not much that we can do from 3000 miles away except try to calm her or offer suggestions. Her roommates are both gone so it is just her and the cat, and she is not friends with any of the neighbors in the building. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that no serious problems develop.

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Mon, 08-29-2011 - 2:36pm
How did she do? I hope it wasn't too bad for her.

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Mon, 08-29-2011 - 4:31pm

She was okay. Part of her distress was because she felt like she wasn't aware of what was happening. Her computer isn't working and while she has a smart phone I guess a lot of things such as maps either didn't work on the phone or couldn't be enlarged enough to see. She doesn't have cable tv so her only source of info was from Sirius radio and from me watching The Weather Channel and CNN on the other side of the country, then telling her! On Saturday night she found out that her roommate had left an iPad there so dd was able to use that for the internet, and I think that calmed her. That, and a bottle of wine LOL!

As far as I know there was no flooding or wind damage to her apartment or her building, and no power outages. Her apt is on the 6th floor so she was higher than the trees but below the height where the winds get stronger.

Oh, and the restaurant did not open on Sunday.

I'm sure glad that the storm left NYC when it did! I was really getting "hurricane fatigue" from watching the coverage so much (in case there was something significant to pass on to her) and felt like I was there--at one point dh and I both said that we expected to look out the window and see the storm, we were so immersed in it via the constant tv coverage. After it moved through on Sunday morning I turned off the tv for the rest of the day!

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Wed, 08-31-2011 - 6:58pm
Elspeth, so glad everything worked out for your dd. These things are so frightening as we can't be in control and the kids don't take things as seriously as we do. You are right, we never stop worrying about our kids!

We had a similar issue earlier this year when the tsunami was supposed to hit the West coast. We were up at 5 am watching tv, trying to reach ds finally got through to him at 9:30 our time, 6:30 his time. He had turned off his cell and he thought we were crazy to be bothering him. Then 30 mins later, a friend dropped by to check on him & pointed out the sirens warning of possible evacuation. Only then did DS take it seriously but the waves never hit hard, so all was fine.