When did we get so stupid?
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|Sat, 01-22-2011 - 4:13pm|
Thought I would kick this new folder off with something that a couple of friends and I have been discussing this week. We are all in our 50s, with kids between 24 & 35 and grandkids under 4. We also worked full time while raising these kids during a time where a father was considered wonderful if he helped in the home.
During the last few weeks, we have all experienced the same reaction from our kids when we foolishly offered advice regarding their kids or lives. In my case, my grandson started running a temperature without cold symptoms for 2 days. Then the runny nose & coughing started. The temp was up & down for 5 days. I suggested seeing a doctor, reaction was it's a waste of time Mom as it's just the flu. We were to baby-sit overnight. No problem but I said that they had to take my grandson to the walk in clinic before dropping him off with us. They reluctantly complied & the poor kid had severe infections in both ears. My DD feels awful now but said she asked him several times if his ears hurt & he said no. Apparently, I ran to the dr too much with my kids which is interesting in that I don't remember ever being there & not having the dr confirm that they needed tests, drugs, etc.. Plus we didn't get to take time off work to deal with family issues. You had to take a vacation day or lie & call in sick yourself. In our province, an employer must give you up to 10 days per year to deal with family illness & most companies pay you for it.
Similar thing happened to my girlfriend, her little grandson had been coughing for weeks & her daughter did take him to the dr but was told his lungs were clear but he didn't get better & her DD said it was a waste of time to take him back. 3 wks later my girlfriend demanded that her daughter take him back to the dr because he was getting worse and turns out this little one had pneumonia.
My other girlfriend cautioned her son about quitting his job before he confirmed that he had a firm offer for another job. He had the verbal but nothing in writing. He knew better & quit. Unfortunately, the company results weren't as good as forecasted & they are now in a hiring freeze. So he didn't get a formal offer & he is without a job, no benefits & his wife only working part time.
These are a few examples of how wonderful kids can still create frustration for us as parents even when they are "grown kids". Anyone else get frustrated with their frown kids & wish you could still send them to their room? Any other examples of how little we know & how much they know?
Have a good day, Dee.