When to get engaged in your kids' problems?
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|Wed, 02-23-2011 - 8:48pm|
I try very hard to see both sides of every situation. It's my day job and I'm really good at it. However, I tend to lose my perspective when something is upsetting one of my kids. How would you handle the following situation?
Talking to DD on MSN today - she tends to pour her heart out better in words than in person or by phone. She is tired & upset with her fiance. As I listen to the issues, my rational side is telling me that most of this is normal partner stuff and I just listen while she vents. But then the Mom in me starts to get engaged & I quickly lose my perspective. DD is exhausted. She works shift work, rarely has 2 days off together & her schedule changes constantly with at most 7 days notice and sometimes it is with less than 24 hrs notice. Their son has special needs & shift work helps as he has many appointments that she takes him too. She can't afford to screw up at work as she is responsible for drug testing & one screw up can cost thousands of $s. Her fiance works for a friend of his Dad's in a job his Dad got him. He has no real responsibility and has no interest in doing anything more than what he does. Which is fine. However, he is now complaining that DD has no time to