The winds of change!

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The winds of change!
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Mon, 02-20-2012 - 12:48am

Christine came home this afternoon (she worked late ast night and stayed overnight at a friend's downtown) and shortly after her arrival, she went upstairs to her room and proceeded to do a huge clean up of it.

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Mon, 02-20-2012 - 12:03pm

That's great news Shirley. Your source of irritation has been eliminated, and you didn't have to do anything to get that achieved. Hopefully she will keep the room picked up for the remainder of the time that she is staying there.

What are rents like in Calgary? I'm shocked at how high they are here, and even more shocked at the rents in San Francisco (NYC we knew would be outrageous). Do Patrick and Eric both live in roommate situations?

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Mon, 02-20-2012 - 5:38pm

I think they are pretty high here too, though I've not kept up on the numbers, other than the houses my sons have rented (and not that close to the downtown area) are somewhere in the $1,200. a month rent...maybe more.

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Wed, 02-22-2012 - 7:00pm
Shirley, I'm glad Christine decided to take her own actions to clean up after herself without you having to have a "discussion" about it. They do grow up just some more slowly than others and it's a nice surprise when they demonstrate their maturity.

The roommate situation is always a challenge. James had a great above basement apt his first year in BC. The owners went away for a couple of mths in the winter & he was given use of their family room during this time. But he found they too intrusive. I said they were just being kind. They were retired profs & would offer him meals, drives to places even to airport/ferry when he came home for visits. James prefers to do things his own way. This year they offered him the place at a lower rate but another couple he knew offered them the same rate but no payments when he wasn't there. So he saved a mth's rent when he came home for Xmas. He is finding this arrangement more challenging from the last as he is to share the common space but they are always home. He likes his private time so don't think he will return next fall.

Dee
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Thu, 02-23-2012 - 11:47am

I don't know what's worse--roommates, or a homeowner who wants to "adopt" you.

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Thu, 02-23-2012 - 7:16pm

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Thu, 02-23-2012 - 8:31pm

We've stayed in B&Bs a few times and fortunately the owners were pretty low key. They offered some advice but then disappeared. At a place in rural Vermont we had to go into the kitchen to tell them what we wanted for breakfast, then she cooked it up for us and we ate at their kitchen table. And this kitchen was not frou-frou-ed up for the guests, there was stuff all over the place. You really felt like you were staying in someone's home LOL. We had hotcakes with maple syrup from their grove so we bought a gallon (yes, a gallon!) and had it shipped home.

I've had a LOT of roommates over the years. In just the house where dh lived I had 13 different roommates over the course of 4 years. A couple of them were there for ~3 years and obviously there were a lot who stayed for just a short time before deciding that it was not the right situation for them. One of the long term roommates is still a friend although we rarely see each other.

My kids have both had a lot of roommates too, some good ones and some really bad ones.

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Thu, 02-23-2012 - 8:49pm
My dd managed to bond with a couple of her roommates during university which was interesting as she doesn't normally get along with other females. Both of these girls were in her wedding party last summer. James did an exchange program for 3 mths & bonded with one girl out of the 12 he lived with. When we purchased a house for him to live in during college, this friend roomed with him for 3 yrs & she became part of our family. He had to find a 3rd room mate to offset the carrying costs of the house but never really connected with the 3rd. They came & went.

As for B&Bs, I love them but Ian isn't a fan. I'm partial to those with lots of antiques. I enjoy meeting with people who are staying at the B&B and talking with the owners to understand what motivates them to run a B&B. DD & I went to my favourite B&B for a weekend a few years ago. Been trying to get Ian to go but no luck so far. They have a weekend 2 night stay that includes a 60 min stone massage. There are only 2 bedrooms & they are in a separate part of the house away from the owners. The guest wing includes a sun porch, drawing room, separate dinning room & access to outdoor hot tub all year. The owners also have their own winery so a bottle of wine is included. I had the best stone massage ever & was able to just wander up to the drawing room in my robe, drink wine & relax totally. One breakfast included a omelet that was about 3 inches high. I had never seen one puff up like these omelets did. Had a great chat with the owners & their mother. Turned out that we had almost brought the mother's cottage when she sold it a couple of years before. The cottage was 4 hrs away from the B&B so no possible connection and about a mile from what we did buy..

Dee
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Fri, 02-24-2012 - 1:02am

Both Rae & Lolo stayed home during college and commuted.

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Tue, 02-28-2012 - 1:47pm
We thought about buying a house for the kids but they both looked at us in horror. Plus, both DH and I were too busy with work to take on the extra hassle of taking care of another house, 2 hours away. Both my two did not have room mates their first year in university. It is actually very uncommon at their university for kids to share rooms. Most of the rooms in the residences are singles, with shared common spaces. (By the way, I am sure you can guess what university they went to. It is very near where Nora lives.) After that, they both shared houses/apartments in the student ghetto with friends/classmates. Their share of the rent, gas,electricity & internet varied from $500 to $700 per month, depending on where they were living. DD is now sharing an apartment with friends she knew from her undergrad days. Her share of the rent is about $700 per month; TO is after all an expensive place to live. It takes her an hour to get to the lab each day but that is TO for you. DS is sharing a house in the student ghetto with classmates. His rent is cheap, only about $500, including gas & electricity & internet. But,he will be moving out in about two months, when he graduates.
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Tue, 02-28-2012 - 9:46pm

Hmmmm?-I wonder what university THAT would be. :smileylol:Our girls went there-#1 lived in "Science Co-Op Housing" for her first year. It wasn't expensive, (though I don't know what it cost any more)-& she shared the house with total strangers-all taking sciences. She had her own room-& someone came in to cook meals for them, but the cleaning was up to the students (meaning it was filthy). Adam was an ice-breaker-the kids loved him (not many university students have a little brother who is just starting Jr. Kindergarten). She phoned one day to assure me that she'd told the one guy that her mother "was NOT a brood sow, that the brother was actually a foster brother". Somehow I didn't like the wording of that-wasn't sure I could look the guy in the face any more!The only time I saw it clean was when she offered to keep him while we went to settle my fil's estate one weekend-she told them he was coming & that he needed it to be clean. They found a vacuum & used it! After that year, she lived with her bf-also in university & living in a house his parents bought for him & his brother.

#2 was in Nursing-& the rule was that Nursing students had to have a room-mate in order to learn to adapt. She & the girl did not get along-but she survived. After that she lived in apartments-in the ghetto-& if she had a room mate, they at least each had their own bedroom, which made it easier.

Both girls moved in with their fiances-Susan while in University & Karen when she finished. Our son went to York-lived in a room of his own in residence & I told him that when he moved everything out-the room probably imploded because of the amount of stuff he had in there! As usual-my sense of humour was not appreciated!

Nora

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