Yeah. You know I've been there!
I don't know why they don't get it. I really don't. I'm just at such a loss with it. Dh tells me that my "standards are too high." Um, no, having clean clothes, no rotting food or garbage laying around and a clean toilet to pee in is not having standards "too high." Its just wanting to live like a grown up.
This week is my cleaning week now that I am out. I'm devoting the whole week to getting the house back in order, it will probably take that long. It really pisses me off that I have to spend my "break" catching up on the stuff they couldn't help with during the semester. And then as soon as school starts up again, we'll be back to chaos, again.
I don't know, I haven't figured it out obviously. I guess we just have to get through it and then hire a cleaning lady as soon as we have jobs!
Ugh, I'm sorry your family's not helping out. That would annoy me too. DD16 does her own laundry because we got tired of her waiting til the last minute then having a huge load of crap to wash. She's better now that it's her job alone.
I totally agree, once our finances are back in the black & I'm working again, we WILL be hiring a cleaning lady, at least 2x a month to do the big scrub downs. I loathe cleaning, the time it takes to do & the short length it actually stays super clean.
Mom to DD16, DD10 & DS8
I feel for you. I love my 15 yo DS, but he is a real slob..lol! I've learned the ONLY way to get him to do anything around the house is to give him a list with specific instructions. Sad that I have to do that, but when I do, he'll actually do chores pretty efficiently. But if I didn't tell him exactly what needed to be done...forget it.
My ex-husband was a complete, total, and utter messy individual. he also had hoarding issues, which made life even more fun. Occasionally he'd fix something that was broken, but other than that, I was responsible for all of the cooking, cleaning, shopping, yardwork, childcare, etc. It was exhausting and miserable. I finally gave up doing his laundry. I told him he was an adult and he could do it himself, since I also worked full-time. Instead of doing laundry, he'd just let mountains of dirty clothing pile up, then buy NEW clothing. His closets and dressers were bursting with clothing. It was ridiculous. I have stories about him that would curl your hair ;)
But I have to say, I am VERY lucky now. My DH is great about helping with housework (I don't even have to ask!) and he enjoys doing the yardword. He's like superhusband...lol!
"Instead of doing laundry, he'd just let mountains of dirty clothing pile up, then buy NEW clothing."
My husband has totally done this. Really. What the heck? I admit that one time my favorite running socks were dirty (I only had one pair because they are $15 each) And instead of putting off my run until after I could wash them, I bought another pair on the way to the park. But really, I needed a second pair anyways, I swear!