moms in college

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Registered: 04-13-2012
moms in college
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Fri, 04-13-2012 - 10:42pm

Hi, I am new to this but I have a lot of questions for you guys. I am a mom of a two-year old and I am currently going to college. I just wonder if there are any moms in here are also going to school and how do you manage your time and balance your life as a mom and a student? Also, I don't know if I jusy have very high expectation for myself but I feel bad when I dont get the grade that I expected and kinda blame myself for not being able to manage time better. I know I should not compare myself to other students who are not parents that can study as much as they want since they would not have to be paying a lot of attention to kids. I just want to know how do you adjust your mindset and not be frustrated at the situation? Thank you.

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Registered: 09-21-2007
Sat, 04-14-2012 - 10:38am
Welcome!

I also have a 2 year old, and an almost 4 month old, so I completely understand not being able to spend as much time on school work as you would like. I'm actually working on my second BA degree and will go on to get my Master's. Right now I am managing by only taking 2 classes at a time. But, next fall and spring I am going to be taking 3 classes at a time, and I'm a little scared, lol. But, I know that I will get through it. I'm lucky, though, because school has always been easy for me so I don't have to spend as much time studying for things as others. What I would recommend for you would be to try and schedule time for studying, even if it is 20 minutes at a time a few times a day. Do you have someone to help you with your child? Maybe they can take him/her and keep them entertained for an hour a day in the afternoon/evening to give you more concentrated time for schoolwork. Also, if you can, you might find that in the evenings after your child goes to bed is a good time to study. I know that is probably the only time you have to unwind, but doing a little studying then will probably help ease the pressure you feel with school. There are times that I do get frustrated when I can't get the time I need to do my schoolwork, but the only way I've found to get past that is to just get the work done. Oh, and how is your child at playing by themselves? My 2 year is great at playing by himself, so I'll let him play in the living room while I do some of my schoolwork so I can still keep an eye on him but not have to entertain him. The 4 month old is another story, though, as he is a big ole mama's boy and wants me to hold him almost all the time, lol. He's starting to get a little better about that, but I still can usually only do school stuff when he is asleep.


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Wed, 04-25-2012 - 1:58pm

The thing is my son needs a lot of attention. Basically when he is awake, I need to watch him and I really do not have the chance to study. When I am with him, I am usually taking care of him by myself since my husband works a lot. I do not have other kids and so I am the only one that can play with him. When he is not in daycare, I am expecting to give all my energy taking care of him. I feel like I