How did your family take it?
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|Thu, 02-02-2012 - 2:19am|
As far as bwing in a multicultural relashionship and raising kids in a bilingual and multicultural environement how did your and your partner's family react?
My family was pretty much fine with whatever I did, they might not like it but they wouldn't tell me, they respect my choices so there never have been any issue.
My in-laws are another story all together, or shall I say my MIL because the rest of DH's family doesn't have any problem, but for my MIL as far as she is concerned my biggest flaw is that I'm not Indian, and that it is my duty to redeem that flaw at all cost for making up for the fact I robbed her of a DIL from a respectable well off Indian family. So to redeem it I must act Indian , breathe Indian walk Indian and talk the talk, she is pretty much pissed that I didn't follow certain customs for my daughter like the whole head shaving thing after she turned two, she hates the fact I speak French to her and not hindi (never mind my hindi is so poor it would be stupid to communicate with my kids in this language) her reasoning is that any other language is useless to her so not worth teaching to our daughter! DH and I ignore her, after 5 years of marriage going on 6 she still hasn't realised I'm here to stay and that no matter what she does I will not bend, or prove her right on the whole divorce stereotype she has, and that I have no intention of loosing my roots. But as I said she is the only one on that boat so it isn't a biggie, plus we live far enough from them that I don't see her more than a week a year, I can play the part to an extent while there, so sad she can't even be civilised to me for more than a day though.
She also lives in this notion that as far as India goes only her version of it matter, never mind that it is a country of high cultural diversity, if it isn't her way then it isn't Indian...oh well!