Crush on my child's teacher advice

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2007
Crush on my child's teacher advice
6
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 12:11pm

I'm an

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2007
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 2:09pm

This is inappropriate on SO many levels.

1) What message do you think it sends to your daughter to be talking about her teacher this way?

2)Why are you talking about your personal life this deeply with an 8 year old. She's your daughter, not your girlfriend.

3) Outside of sitcoms and harlequin romances, teachers do not date the parents of students. It's incredibly inappropriate and violates professional boundaries.

Teachers are incredible gossips though. So unless you'd like to be the laughingstock of the staffroom, I'd move your attentions elsewhere.





iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2007
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 4:02pm

I'm sorry if I sounded like a hoochie, or whatever you think of me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2007
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 4:12pm
Aside from the highschoolish evaluation ("Potter, etc.") I have to say that I think if you were to approach him about it, you should most definetly wait until the end of the school year at least. I'm not totally sure how things work with teachers, but I would think it would be considered inappropriate for you to approach or hint about this to him while he is your daughter's teacher.

mav-sigcopy.jpg picture by maverickmommy


I am unable to give legal or medical advice. My opinions are based on my experiences and my personal research.


<3 My Blog, My Life, Uncensored <3


messsoapboxa1.gif image by maverickmommy


rearfacing.gif image by kyboyknls


beauty2.gif image by maverickmommyadvice.gif image by maverickmommy1.gif image by maverickmommy
blinkie20118.gif image by maverickmommyscriptani1.gif image by maverickmommyilovemylittleboy.gif

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2007
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 4:13pm
Gina, I wasn't trying to be mean. (although, you sounded less like a hoochie than a 15 year old, to be honest). I AM a teacher. I know what gets said in staffrooms about parents who do what you're thinking of doing. It is RARELY complimentary. So, I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings, but was honestly trying to save both you and the teacher a heck of a lot of embarrassment.



iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2007
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 4:33pm

okay thanks.


Actually I'm too shy/timid to say anything at all to tell you the truth....If I were I was going to wait until she's in 4th grade anyways.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2007
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 4:44pm

It's ok to crush on the teacher. It's just not ok to act on it. Not even when she's in Gr. 4. It violates all sorts of professional boundaries to date a parent. It would have to be one of those FATE things to violate that.

Plus, sweetie, I'm sorry, but you DON'T have so much in common.

"He's 30, I'm 34; He' a Scorpio, I'm a Pisces (a good match up I've heard); His last name is Potter which my all time fav book and movie is Harry Potter. And his birthday is on the same day as my youngest nephew. Oh my brother who's in the accounting field married a teacher, and I work in accounting in my company and he's a teacher. Alot of coincidents..."

Those are only things in common when you're in highschool. His last name is Potter and you like Harry Potter? Seriously? And the birthday? Really. Lots of people have birthday. And that doesn't speak to either of you as people, it's just an accident of birth. Your account brother married a teacher---that's meaningful to HIM how, exactly? What is there in COMMON here? Interests? Belief systems? Values? Sense of humour? Those are things in common.

Oh, and they wouldn't be gossiping about him. It'd be all about you, and while he would be incredibly professional to you, trust me when I tell you he'd be joining in on the staffroom laughter.

I'd be addressing your daughter's behaviour though. Sounds like she's lacking a strong male role model in her life. Perhaps you could ask your brother or a trusted male friend to try and pick up the slack in that area.




Edited 11/21/2007 4:50 pm ET by mama-goose