Having a baby while single

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Registered: 09-10-2013
Having a baby while single
Fri, 11-22-2013 - 3:19pm

Hi! I'm not sure if this is the right board but I am 30 and divorced with no children. I had two miscarriages with my ex-husband and I know I want to have at least one kid, very soon.  I would like to try getting pregnant again but have decided if the 3rd time does not work I will move forward with adoption. This is all new to me. When you are single and dating is this something you tell the person upfront; that you want a child within the next 1.5 years whether it is biological or adopted or do you hold you tongue and wait until you are in a serious relationship with someone?

I am dating someone right now and I did tell him what I wanted and he stated that he is on board with my plan. But my thoughts are that once it comes down to it he may not be, which I can understand, it is a big decision. He is divorced too with two children ages 7 & 8. So, I guess I am just trying to see if anyone else has been in a similar situation and had any advice to offer.