Husband doesn't help

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Registered: 03-06-2010
Husband doesn't help
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Sat, 03-06-2010 - 4:01pm
My husband and I have 2 kids.
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Registered: 04-22-2008
Sun, 03-07-2010 - 8:10am

Hi and welcome to the board!

I would say that he just doesn't understand that you need help. If you could find a way to leave him alone with the kids for a few hours, he may start to realize that it requires all of your attention at those ages. My DH helps out a lot and does dishes, clothes, and mopping when I ask him to. Have you asked specifically what you would like him to do? Instead of saying "Could you help me with the house?" specifically ask him to do a certain task. Some men just don't believe housework is their job and won't do it.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 2:18pm

I've learned that boys tend to not see what needs to be done unless we ask them to do it.

Christine
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Registered: 03-12-2010
Fri, 03-12-2010 - 9:01pm

Hey there! I know exactly how you feel..my hubby gets at least 3 or 4 days off in a row and I feel sometimes he helps extremely too much and then the next week he barely helps at all. I have tried over and over to tell him even the little things mean the most, such as what you said: helping me give the kids baths or washing up a few dishes. It seems they think we don't do anything besides sit at home sometimes!!


I never realized how much hard work it is really to be at home until I started staying home recently after we moved. I so feel your pain. Email me or keep n touch, would love to have some new friends on here :)


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