Play Dates and Play Mates

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Registered: 05-17-2001
Play Dates and Play Mates
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Tue, 02-15-2011 - 9:27pm

My oldest DD is 6 and in Kindergarten.

~Misty~


 


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Registered: 10-05-2003
Wed, 02-16-2011 - 11:40am

I completely understand where you are coming from! Here's some random thoughts from me! :D

What does she usually do between 4:30 and dinner time @ 5:30? Maybe you can limit it to just that time of day while you are getting dinner ready.

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Registered: 09-07-2000
Wed, 02-16-2011 - 3:21pm
DS has a friend next door that's similar. It's really bad in the warmer months. I go day by day. If Ian doesn't have homework, then he can go out for about an hour. He gets home from school right around 3:00, so an hour of running off steam works out OK. I usually won't let them have playtime on Tues. or Thurs. since we have activities on those days.

I don't think you're being mean. Does your daughter *want* to play with the neighbor? If so, maybe she could have 30 minutes on a Wednesday or something.

If you've told the girl your rules and she continues to come over, I'd say something to her parents. Do you know your neighbors well?
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Registered: 05-17-2001
Wed, 02-16-2011 - 5:35pm
Thanks for all the good advice! DD does ant to play sometimes, but after school she mostly wants to just do her own thing, she even tends to fight with her sister when she wants to play. I think she needs to unwind. That is a long day for a 6 year old, 7 am to 4:30 pm.

I wouldn't mind so much if the girls could play outside for that hour after school, Hannah only has homework on weekends. But most of the time it's too cold, and she's just getting over a bad chest cold.

I don't know the other parent too well. She lives with her mom and grandparents. It's a new situation, her mom left the dad right around Christmas and they moved here with the grandparents. Which makes me feel so bad for her. I'm going to take it one day at a time too....we'll see how it works out and if the girls still comes over so much, I thikn I will have to talk to her mom. I wish we knew each other better!! I'm thinking about asking her to our play dates we have about three times a week.

I have told the other girl several times the rules, that Hannah can't play after school, but she still comes over. and a lot of the time on weekends, when we can be outside, she will see us and come over. A lot of the time DH and I feel she is kind of overstepping on our family time. Ifeel guilty for thinking that way, but...I wish her mom would call for play dates instead of the girl just popping over. I feel bad every timeI send her away, but I can't have her over all the time either.

~Misty~


 


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Registered: 10-05-2003
Wed, 02-16-2011 - 6:05pm

She's probably lonely ...and that's prob not helping you feel better! LOL Sorry! But regardless, her Mom needs to take control and realize that other families/children can't always play all the time. That children need to spend time with their families...and why isn't