Question for SAHM moms of older kids...newbie here

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Question for SAHM moms of older kids...newbie here
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Mon, 05-28-2012 - 12:00am

but I hang out at the 10-14 year olds & dealing with in-laws boards.  I posted my question on the 10-14 yr olds and got some great responses and then saw this board and wanted your opinions too.  

How do you find happiness in staying home now that your kids don't need you so much? I esp. want to hear from moms who don't have creative outlets or hobbies and yet manage to fill their days and find new meaning in life.

I am 46 and mom to DD13 and DS 9. Both kids are generally good and I have more free time. But I am not all creative and really have no hobbies except reading. I am actually a substitute teacher but barely get any jobs because there are too many young new teachers with multiple certifications.  I sign for school volunteer events but honestly, these are so full of other moms that I just seem to stand and watch and not do anything.

Also, my in-laws live with me for 6 months/year. So I am seeking ways to get out of the house and get some privacy. They are generally nice people but sometimes I do wish I was alone in the house. 

But more importantly, how are all the SAHMs handling this phase even if you are not empty nesters yet? I could join yoga classes, do the library book club, help in community events - is this what you all do too? How do you stay contented if there is no sense of urgency to your life, no deadlines to meet and no need to rush anywhere?

 

Thanks so much,

Chimi

 

PS: I am trying to focus on the now and take each day as it comes but I do wonder "is this it?"

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Re: Question for SAHM moms of older kids...newbie here
Sun, 06-10-2012 - 12:02am
I also heard about meetup.com - I will look into it.
Thank you.
Chimi