SAHM trouble

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Registered: 03-13-2011
SAHM trouble
Sun, 03-13-2011 - 3:49pm

Hi everyone, I am in desperate need of some advice. I am a SAHM of two wonderful boys, ages 18months and 4months. My husband is very helpful when he is home, but works 14 hours a day. He does have off for 7 days in a row a month because of the long hourse, but by the time he gets home from work the boys are already in bed and he eats, takes a shower and goes to bed. I feel trapped. And I feel like a horrible mother because I hate being a SAHM. No one I know understands how I feel, they all think it's the best job ever. Don't get me wrong, I love my boys so much, but I am at the end of my rope. I just can't stand to stay at home without my husband to help. I get anxious just thinking that he has to work tomorrow.

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Sun, 03-13-2011 - 4:40pm

First of all, I want to say "you are not a bad mom".

Ande and Noah
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Registered: 05-15-2009
Tue, 03-15-2011 - 1:19pm
I think the most important thing to remember is this part of being a SAHM (to two small children) is a phase. It won't last forever. Before you know it, your boys will be much more independent.

I agree with the PP's suggestion of getting together with other moms. A group will provide you with a support network, friendship, playdates (including nights out without kids!), and you'll see that you're definitely not alone. Have you ever looked into joining a moms' group?

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Registered: 10-15-2001
Tue, 03-15-2011 - 7:34pm

(((Hugs))) It is really hard having 2 little ones and being there on your own most of the time.

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Registered: 04-01-2011
Fri, 04-01-2011 - 4:21pm
i understand. We have 4 kids. I have stay home almost 9y and still struggle. Doesn't help that dh would like to stay home somedays, but he makes double what I would make. Finding other moms like you really helps. I use to go to MOPS. Check out the webiste to find a group near you. All group are different, my Blair group was awesome, but the group here was not. See if there are any local playgroups (facebook is a good place to check).