worst wife award for me i guess

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Registered: 03-15-2010
worst wife award for me i guess
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Mon, 03-15-2010 - 1:07pm

Hi,


My name is Nicole and I have been a stay at home mom for over 8 years now and I am ready to just throw in the towel.


The household chores have always been an issue. My husband does not believe that he should do anything. He will help for a little while and then he just stops. I have two boys and a girl and it can just be exhausting. I am not perfect by any means. There are times that I do let it go just because I am tired. I have been doing this for so long. But I really do try and I ALWAYS feel like a hamster on a wheel. The second I get anything done..it just gets messed up again.


I do not believe that I should be spending my every waking moment cleaning and do laundry. I run a volunteer prorgram on base. I am there a few days a week. It has opened doors for my husband career wise and is giving me SOMETHING for me and my future for recommendations.

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Registered: 04-22-2008
Mon, 03-15-2010 - 3:22pm

Hi and welcome!

Sorry about your husband. It is so normal to feel overwhelmed and a little bit crazy being at home all day. It's hard to get everything done and he needs to be more understanding. Is there any way to leave him with the kids for a day and let him see what it's like when he has no help?

(((Hugs)))

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-20-2010 - 7:41am

The award for worst wife most certainly doesn't go to you. Leaving the house to go to work doesn't excuse him from responsibilities at home.


I hope you can work it out. When you're home w/kids, the housework is a never-ending cycle. Once you come to terms with the fact that it's not going to be perfectly clean/organized etc..., it's easier to handle.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Sat, 03-20-2010 - 8:06pm

lurker here.

I think it is time to start reminding your DH that he is not your employer but your life partner. And then perhaps make some suggestions that would meet him halfway to his expectations. After all, if he wants clean work shirts, military style folded and put away. Perhaps you can wash them and sort them into his designated basket. And he can then fold them as he prefers and put them away. Just like they do it in boot camp (which I have been through myself, so I know for a fact). It shouldn't be entirely on you to accomplish things solely to his preference.

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Registered: 05-12-2008
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 1:31pm

My husband used to sing the same tune until he

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Registered: 06-07-2005
Sat, 04-03-2010 - 9:53am

i hate to admit it, but i did to my husband what your husband is doing to you. "I worked, therefore i didn't have to

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 05-18-2010 - 1:12pm

Girl you are preaching to the choir here.