2.5 Year Old Son -Spirited/Highneed

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Registered: 11-23-2005
2.5 Year Old Son -Spirited/Highneed
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Wed, 11-23-2005 - 3:19pm

I welcome any advice that anyone out there can offer. I've read several books and talked to my friends, the only other friend of mine who has a son with a similar temperment sent him to preschool. I didn't put him on the waitlist last year and I want him home until he's 3.5 (or at least I think I do - if I can maintain my sanity).

I say yes, he says no -Example: I promised him a pudding after lunch if he could be patient. He wasn't patient and kept telling me I just wasn't getting his food fast enough. He's been like this from birth. When I told him no pudding if he wasn't patient he got in my face and screamed at me until he turned purple. I gave him a time out and he was still acting out. I just don't know what to do with him.

Complicating matters is my own uncertainty about being a SAHM. I have a master's degree and I am a CPA. I was going to be promoted to manager at an international CPA firm when I resigned because my son was just getting sick all of the time. Shortly afterward I became pregnant (he's now 6mo). I wouldn't hesitate to go back, but I don't think it's best for my little guy. Also, I think I want another one or two, but I really miss work. My husband wants me home- probably because I have more time to spoil him now.

Please help! I don't know what to do.

B

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Fri, 11-25-2005 - 3:02am
Just a quick question here....does he know what being patient consists of? I'm not sure that my DD would have understood the concept of patience at 2.5
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 11-25-2005 - 12:29pm
Hi
Staying at home is defenitively challenging! I think I underestimated the amount of work, patience and creativity it takes to take care of my little guy. Mostly if he/she is spirited. You really have to find creative ways to keep them busy. For me, thats the key - keeping my 2 year old busy. That way we avoid too many tantrums.
And, yes, I like you have days where I wonder if I should be working. But then life is full of second guessing our decisions. In the end I think I want to raise my son and get to know him. Work will always be there when he gets older.
And like you, I also want a second. So that keeps me at home also.
If you need to talk - feel free to post and we can try to help in any way we can,
josee