ACK, mom's worst nightmare!!!! (m)

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ACK, mom's worst nightmare!!!! (m)
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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 1:01am
We've been putting Jacob (6mo) down for naps on our king size double pillowtop bed for a couple of weeks now. He sleeps so much better on our bed - I think because it's so cushy compared to his stiff crib mattress. We'd pile up pillows around the edge, thinking "no problem, he's not much of a roller".

SO and I were downstairs talking, dishwasher's going, TV's on....didn't hear any crying or anything to let us know DS was awake and I had just checked on him recently. Then....the most sickening *THUD*. At first I thought it was a neighbor (we rent a townhouse), but "mommy's intuition" sent me flying up the stairs. Before I got halfway up, DS was screaming bloody murder. I nearly threw up when I opened the door...and there's Jacob, lying face down on the carpet!!!! He'd somehow rolled/fallen off our bed - which is a good 3 feet high!!! I screamed for SO to come help (he's a former EMT and CNA, normally calm in all medical situations), and SO is completely hysterical. "OMG OMG What do I do?? What do I do??" he's screaming, and I calmly (amazingly) tell him to call 911. We have a phone in our bedroom, but he freaks and runs back downstairs to hunt down the cordless! As he's on the phone with 911, I stablized Jacob's head (for neck/head injuries) and put him on the bed, trying to calm him. No blood, no bruises, no protruding bones.

Make a long story short, EMS shows up and freaks out our entire complex (dang looky-loos), but say that Jacob appears to be just fine. They assure me it's happened to their own kids before...."it takes only once". Jacob is smiling and playing peekaboo with the firemen, perfectly fine! Then, the friggin cops show up to do a report. Apparently, because of the shaken baby syndrome, any injury to a child as to be investigated. He takes all our info, gives us a case number, and says DS doesn't look like normal shaken babies so we should be okay. He assures us, too, that one of his kids fell off the bed..."it takes only once".

We pack up and head to the hospital (in our own vehicle, we decided against the ambulance). We're there for about 1.5 hrs before we get in to see the doctor, who had his own child fall off the bed as well..."it takes only once". They've all said this to us!! He checks Jacob out, he's perfectly okay (no xrays were taken). THEN we get the hospital social worker to come and tell us about infant safety, basically shake her finger at us and tell us "no no". She says she's not going to report our case to CPS, thank god. We were there a little over 2 hrs (not bad for a kid's ER), and I feel like the absolute worst mother in the world. I feel a little better knowing I'm not the only one, but added to yesterday's realization that for 6mos I've been putting the car seat in the wrong place (ackkk!), I'm feeling really unsure about being a mom!! As we were waiting for the EMS, I kept having flashes of Jacob living in a wheelchair for the rest of his life!!! Ughhh!! *sigh* Thank god he is okay, thank god he wasn't seriously injured. No more naps in mommy and daddy's bed!!!!

Amanda

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 3:28am
((HUGS) I am glad everything turned out OK.

As for,Social Services(CPS especially) SUCK in my county/state.They let kids die.Even if they are called to do a report,they fail miserably at taking a report and taking action.They are now doing an investigation of a 9 month old baby that just died a block away from me.I wonder what will happen with that.I heard the baby was sick a long time and the parents never took him to the hospital.Neglect if you ask me.

Now that they were informed of your little accident,I'd be worried they'll keep an eye out for anymore accidents.I am so glad he is OK.
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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 5:36am
(((BIG HUGS))) to YOU & JACOB!!! I am glad he is OK!!! You are NOT a BAD MOTHER! I've done the same thing! I've put Remington down to sleep in our bed b/c Saige was already sleeping, they share a room. And even though he was a little bit older, it's the same Heart renching feeling when you hear that THUD! Even now that he's almost 3yrs, he often comes in to our bed through the night...well, just the other night, he did this. I try to put him inbetween Dh(Stacy) & myself but Stacy moved to the couch...couldn't take sleeping with TWO "bed hogs", LOL! And the Remington fell out of bed...I could have died...we have Hardwood Floors! EEK!!! And I was right there laying beside him! Try NOT to beat yourself up over this! Honest, I'm sure it's happened to alot of Moms & Dads, they probably just don't say, LOL!

Hope you have a MUCH BETTER DAY!!!

(((HUGS)))

Misty

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 7:04am
OMGoodness, Amanda! What an afternoon! Must have been terrifying for you guys! I'm so glad Jacob is fine.

I swear, I won't tell you've that I've done that! You've probably heard that enough. Dayton always has loved his own place for sleeping. Nice for us.

You're a great Mommy, Amanda. Don't doubt yourself. Take all of this as a learning experience, and a story to tell Jacob later in life!

Hope you have a much better day today. BTW, put Jacob in his crib for nap time today, LOL!!

Hugs,

Sarah

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 7:05am
HUn let me tell you I had 2 kids fall off the bed. I KNOW you are not supposed to put them on the bed EVEN if they dont roll. BUT I WAS EVEN RIGHT THERE! And we dont have carpet. It happens. He is fine. You are not bad. SHOOT just recently my 18 mo old fell down a flight of spiral stairs (METAL) onto the concrete floor! OH talk about feeling bad! AGAIN I was right there. I had a gate up BUT only 1/2 @$$ I assumed he couldnt open it. I am right here But NO I was arms length away turned to put socks in a basket and he went! Now this is my 3rd child. You would think I would know better. and believe me they are pretty tough little things! Robert was up and running around and eating within ten minutes of falling down the stairs!

HUGS hun he will get hurt more and more. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!

Denise

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 7:41am
Wow Amanda, sorry to hear about your ordeal! It has happened to a lot of people (no jusitification, I know) but you are definitely not alone.

And we've all heard the "It only takes once" or "It only takes a second". They are so true, though!

Hope you're feeling better, it sounds like everything is going to be all right! Thank goodness you had your SO with you, I would've completely freaked out if I were alone!

Hugs,

Melissa

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 9:00am
I hope you have a better day today Amanda. I'm glad he is ok. As for them telling you "It only takes once", like you didn't know that. That is not what you want to hear when you're feeling bad and worried already. You're not a bad mother. Have a good day.

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 9:36am
You never know just when they are going to decide to move and rool. Glad to hear he is OK

Conni
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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 10:00am
VERY glad to hear that Jacob's okay!!! We bring Ryleigh into bed to sleep for a couple more hours in the early morning and I'm always worried about her too! Our bed is really high, and even though we are in there with her, she moves A LOT and I'm always worried she'll wiggly off. Give Jacob an extra hug today!

Kacey & Ryleigh (9 months)

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 2:25pm
Thanks for all your support gals! It does help to know I'm not the only one, and today it doesn't seem as much of a big deal as it did last night (especially since he wasn't hurt!) Now if I could just get him to sleep in his crib for naps, ugh he's been fighting it all day!! He finally wore himself out crying and allowed me to put him down in his crib (he does sleep in his crib at night). Glad to know I'm not the only mother with a few flaws ;O)! LOL

Amanda