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| Thu, 07-22-2004 - 5:55pm |
I don’t understand what happened – I asked for this and wanted this and now it’s the hardest thing! I feel lonely, mad and then sad or all at once! My husband and I always said once we have children I’d stay at home and do the “female” things – cooking, cleaning, take care of our babies. He’d do the traditional male things – lawn, trash and work. We just moved into a new neighborhood and I don’t know too many people and before I worked and talked with many people everyday. I love cooking and being with my daughter each day. However – when my husband gets home and he “watches” her they sleep or do what he needs to get done or do – like surf the net. I can’t do that or our daughter wouldn’t even be able to sit up! He can’t even collect all of the trash and get it to the curb. I find myself running around before the trash person comes to get it out – and also I’ve been mowing. I get so mad when I think about me doing everything (meaning “male jobs”) and then watch him “take care” of her. I can’t even imagine being “close” to my husband because it’s becoming yet another thing I have to do for the family. I’ve tried to talk to him and he says he is sorry and will try harder – harder never comes. I asked him to clean up his kitchen mess because I’ve already cleaned it up three times and he says – “What – from your breakfast and lunch?” NO, from his dinner last night, his lunch today and my breakfast this morning! I HATE that I feel this way! I love my child and my husband but something has to give or I’m going to loss my mind. I even thought about going to a hotel for a weekend and not telling him – but that would be MEAN and I’d just have to clean everything up when I get home. Does anyone have advice or do I just need to understand this is what I signed up for, is this really what it’s like to be a stay-at-home? Thanks for your help – speak honestly – but step softly – I’m weak right now. Thanks in advance!

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HUGS and good luck~~~~~~~Angela
My husband is gone 3 weeks at a time and home 3 weeks. He comes home and tried to do things, but ends up messing up everything I have done while he was away, like routines and ways I do stuff.
He is great with the kids, so I am happy he does that, but if he cleans or cooks, I just hate it
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