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Advice please?
| Mon, 06-25-2007 - 6:39pm |
Hi ladies. My 22 month old daughter has been driving me crazy! She will not let me get her dressed, will not let me change her diaper and throws a tantrum at everything. I had such a migrane headache today and she was being super clingy and despite giving her some extra tlc, she was still very cranky. She slept well last night and she had her usual nap this afternoon. Im not sure what could be wrong or is this just a phase, or the terrible twos? I feel like such a horrible Mom...please any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks!
Monica


I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through!! I've been there many times myself though so I can relate.
My only advice is to make sure that you keep your cool.
You're confusing me with the 2 screen names!
My son is almost 21 months and I swear he can sense when my nerves are shot and he turns into a complete hellion. I agree that keeping your cool is best (even though it is terribly hard). I do the mini-timeouts too and put Noah in his crib when he is not listening and driving me crazy. Sometimes for him, sometimes for me, KWIM? Just five minutes can be enough to get my head together again.
I do think it is the terrible twos coming in. Hang in there!
Tarra
Tarra
mommy to
Noah (10/13/05)
and
Hi :) My guess is that she is trying to decide if she still needs you (that's why she's clingy) and if she is able to be alone/independant (not letting you do things for her). If you don't have some place to get to, let her dress herself, even if it takes her an hour. (that's an hour of peace for you because she will be occupied!) Chances are, though, that after a minute or two of struggling with it, she'll say something like "I can't do it" and ask for your help (at least, that is how it has always gone with me). I guess I've always ecouraged independence as they have wanted it, because I don't like being needed for every little thing. With the diaper thing... do you happen to have a fish tank? I ask because I've found that changing kids next to a fish tank is the best! The fish totally distract them, and you get it done much more peacefully. Abby doesn't wear diapers anymore, but that is what we did with her. We have a 30 gallon tank, but it would probably be fine with a smaller one, too. Also, when Abby throws a tantrum I tell her "sorry, I don't know what you want when you are screaming. Come talk to me when you can be calm" and walk away. It cuts the tantrum really short.
I don't know if I've helped at all. I know that I have days where I just want to sit down and cry because I'm so frustrated with a two year old... but I know that it won't be long before she is twelve... and then she won't even sit in my lap and cuddle anymore. So I'm trying to be thankful for now. :)
Hugs Monica!
Been there one that!
Hi,
I have 3 girls 8,6 and 3!! I know exactly what your going through, all of mine did the same thing. Girls will be girls. What I used to do is try is to get her involved in the process. Give her two choices for the top and two for the bottom. When they feel in control of the situation they are much happier!!!
Hope that helps!!!