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| Tue, 04-25-2006 - 9:42am |
Hi! I am here for my sister actually. She has 3 kids and her husband stays at home with the children. She works full-time and then some, last week she worked almost 70 hours. She has to work 2-3 Saturdays a month as well. Here is the problem and of course I am biased because she is my sister, lol! Her husband is on her case a lot to help with cleaning the house. Now, don't bash me but, I think it is his job to take care of hte house and kids and it is her job to work. She also does most of the shopping and pays all of the bills. I feel bad for her becasue they seem to be having the same argument over and over. He doesn't appreciate her and she doesn't appreciate him. What kind of advice can I give her to help. My husband and I both work and my child goes to daycare, so I can't relate. Thanks in advance for any help!
Jessica


Hi Jessica, just my idea but im a SAHM and my hubby is gone most of the time ob business, hes home about 2 weeks of every month..
I know that HE stays home.. In my opinion i dont think my hubby needs to come home and help with house duties UNLESS its on the weekends. I dont clean on Sundays but he will help me pick things up if im too busy with the kids. We have 3 11, 5 and 11 months..
Maybe what they both need is a "date night" or some alone time together to talk things out.. Sometimes in our busy lives we need to "reconnect" with our spouses... I hope this helps!
Angela
What does her husband want her to do? Major house cleaning chores or is he just asking for her to do a couple of things? He could be asking just for acknowledgment...kwim? He might be asking for help but what he could be saying is "please tell me I am doing a good job and what I am doing is important to you." Not knowing this situation fully I don't feel comfortable giving more advice then that.
Traci