Am I being selfish?

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Registered: 06-06-2003
Am I being selfish?
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Thu, 07-22-2004 - 9:09pm
It's me again. LOL I love being a SAHM, but I also have always wanted to be a nurse, and that increased when I had to take care of my granfather when he had cancer. My DH and I have always agreed that I would stay home and take care of the kids. Well before I had Alex 2-01-01. I was registered to go back to college. When I found out I was expecting again, I decided to put it off. Well I have been thinking long and hard about this and I have decided to take 1 evening class a semester and get some of my nursing classes out of the way. I had told DH this about three weeks ago and he said that would be fine. Now let me explain how our weeks normally are when school is in. Monday we have boy scouts, Tuesday we have dance, Wensday he has fire meeting, Thursday, Friday and Sat are open until cheerleading and soccer starts up in a few weeks. All I ask for is one night a week for me for 2 hrs for 1 class. We decided he would not take any classes, or go on any fire calls when I am at class, and that he would handle the kids and he would not do "side" jobs for other people. He is an electrician and people are always calling him to do a job. He informs me last night that a guy in the fire department wants him to take a water rescue class with him. Now I have to admit I do get upset at stuff like that because he works 10-12hrs a day sometimes 7 days a week, and hardly ever sees the three kids. To make a long story short, should I be uspset because he wants to take a class, after he already agreed it was my turn to go to school? Sorry this is so long.

Amy

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Registered: 11-11-2003
In reply to: fafaa
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 9:29pm

AAAAAA!!!!!

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Registered: 05-08-2004
In reply to: fafaa
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 9:30pm

Amy,


I don't think your being selfish at all! I don't know what to say though except can't he wait to take his class when yours is over? Or schedule it where it does not interfere?


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Registered: 11-05-2003
In reply to: fafaa
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 9:39pm
Well I know where you are coming from. My DH and his WHOLE family believes that if ya gonna have kids ya have to stay home with them. Which I plan to stay home when I have babies...But still he wouldn't go for me working. I don't think that you are being selfish. You are the most unselfish person between you and DH. You have given up everything to be a mommy....Though you may not regret it and it may be worth it..Its still true. You have put YOUR life YOUR career on hold to have and raise HIS and your kids. I think you should STILL take that class. Let HIM worry about what he is going to do with the kids on those nights! Cause once ya out of the house...They are HIS responsibilty and HIS problem. Maybe if he has to do something..he can let a grandparent or aunt or someone watch them for 2 hours. But if I was you..I would NOT worry about it. Take that class...Do something for yourself for once. Hope this helps!

Christy

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Registered: 06-06-2003
In reply to: fafaa
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 8:19am
Thanks for the advice and support, it is greatly appreciated!
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Registered: 01-06-2004
In reply to: fafaa
Sat, 07-24-2004 - 9:40pm
Well, this is a hard one, its pretty much down to one person doing what they want and the other not. I hate having to deal with a situation like that.
I do not feel you are being selfish, I should say that right now.
I think you two should sit down again and discuss this a bit more and then come up with a plan that you will stick to. Would not be good if you start going to class and then you have to stop.
Good luck and hope you get your classes :)

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