Am I doing the right thing?

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Registered: 11-13-2003
Am I doing the right thing?
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Wed, 03-09-2005 - 2:09am

A few days ago, it was the 30th birthday of a girl I grew up with. She was my best friend from 4th grade, until after college. We lost touch, because she went onto university, and thought that men and babies would suck the life out a woman.

I was friends with her, still!!! when I re-met dh, and when we got serious, she got all feminist on me, and said I was going to ruin my life.

Anyways, a few days ago, it was her 30th b-day. I bought a card, and am trying to say hi (the first time in about at least 9 yrs!) I am thinking of saying something along the lines of:

"It's been years since I've seen you, but you were a very important part of my younger years & life, and I am thinking of you on this day, I hope you are happy, and you getting all you want and desire out of life, your old friend Lesley"

Is that ok???

I am also thinking of giving her my email address if she wants to see what each of us has been up to...but I don't expect it! lol!!

In a way...and this may sound VERY DUMB!!! I never felt closure with our friendship. I don't expect we will EVER see eachother again, but after being best friends for about 13 years, and the contact to stop, I am more curious as to what she is doing! kwim???

Give advice as to if I should send or not, or to wording, or whatever, lol!!!

But hurry!

Lesley

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Wed, 03-09-2005 - 2:41am

Send it, Lesley. Even if it's just for you to feel closure on this. You've already bought the card and care enought to think so hard on what to say so if you don't send it you'll always wonder what if. Don't do that to yourself! Even if she doesn't respond you'll know you finally closed that chapter of your life and friendship with her. I think what you wrote sounds good to put in the card. Go for it, you have nothing to lose and if you don't send it those nagging what ifs will gnaw at you! :)


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Wed, 03-09-2005 - 9:01am
Send it and get some closure now. Maybe it might spark back up your relationship with her.
Maybe she has a family of her own now and might be a better friend then before.
Good luck.





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Wed, 03-09-2005 - 11:13am

I think you should send it! She was an important part of your life...like you said!


Good luck, hopefully something good will come of it.


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Registered: 09-02-2003
Wed, 03-09-2005 - 11:17am

I agree with the others ... send the card. You can't control how she responds to it, but you can control your own actions, and this way you'll know you've done all you could do to reach out to her and let her know how you feel. Plus, I think what you wrote is a very nice sentiment.

Good luck!
LeeAnne
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