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| Wed, 01-28-2004 - 7:57pm |
Don't get me wrong...I love my son more than I could ever have imagined...I just don't love staying at home full time. I don't regret the decision and I won't go back to work because it would personally break my heart to put him in day care when he is this young, but all that being said...I do it because I think it is best for him, but I still don't love it. Is there ANYONE else out there that feels the same???
Most days I feel like I am just getting through the day...trying to keep from going insane from boredom and loneliness. I am a member of two Moms groups so that does help one day a week, but the other days I feel like I'm going to go crazy. I don't do a lot of errands because my son is a stickler to his nap schedule and also doesn't like the car seat at all...so here I am. I sometimes leave the tv on in the background most of the day so that I have some adult conversation, but then I feel guilty that I have the tv on too much for my son (by the way...he isn't in front of it...it's on in the other room).
Ok...thanks for letting me vent. I hope this is just a stage and that as he gets older I will enjoy it more; however, I was just hoping that maybe somebody else felt the same way I did.

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Laura from Utah and mom to:
Deven 11
Amber 10
Bryen 9
Jered 8
Mikel 6
Ceaira 4
Taryn 2
Taylynne 1.5
Zane 0.5
I know how you feel as well.I used to work seven days a week and bring home and income triple of what I do now. But, when I was working all I used to think about was being at home. Especially when my daughter talked to a new person or ate a new food and I wasn't there. I kept feeling like I needed to work in order to prove I could do both. But, I was miserable and stayed that way for 1 of my daughters life! I am at home now full time and I take care of my 2.5 year old, and three other toddlers of the same age! It is a nightmere and the worst part is I don't make that much money! I feel like I should be making more. But, the truth is the best part of my day is when my daughter wakes up and tells me : "Mommy I wake up all night long!" it is the coolest thing I have ever done. But, I do have a part-time job that I do on the weekends that I think I do for my sanity! I understand the cabin fever and the frustration. This job is much harder then any other job I have ever had! But, it is a job for life! So there is no two weeks notice or transfering locations! I guess my only advice is do things for yourself too. Other then the mothers group. Your still a mom their and not you. So do things for you! If that is a part-time job or just going to starbucks for a couple of hours do it for you and your sanity! Then you time with your baby will be even better because then you won't feel like that is all you do anymore.
smiles =) Jessica
My mom says that she'll be able to entertain herself soon, like after a year old. We'll see.
During the time that I posted this message, she's tried to turn off the computer 2 times, pulled receipts out of the trash and ate the corner off of one of her books. Wheee!!
The best advice I can give you is try to get out of the house and see your girlfriends once or twice a month. If your husband is nice and helpful (which I know is rare...but mine is great) take a class once a week. Get away from all the "kid" stuff. When I am on the treadmill at the gym I try to look at magazine that is not child or family related. I'll look at the golf magazines if I have to! I don't even play!
Write to me anytime if you are bored. We'll talk about anything other than babies.
Melissa
meldisny@yahoo.com
My son is also 8 months old, is a stickler for his nap times (makes outings difficult) and isn't SUPER thrilled with his car seat.... at least not with a winter coat on. My TV is on most of the day too! I leave it on to keep from going insane, and then I worry that it isn't good for him. My house is not real big, so if it is on he is going to see it.. although I try very hard to keep him looking away from it and focus on his toys, or me (not always a winning battle). I worry that I don't know what I am supposed to be teaching him... is he learning the "right" things from me? If he was in daycare, what would he be learning that I don't know about?
I also feel like I am just trying to get thru the day,,, waiting until my DH gets home. I live in Ohio and neither my DH or I have ANY family here, so it's not an option to go see my Mom for an afternoon... everything involves a long distance phone call. I LIVE for when family makes plans to come for a visit, but at the moment none are scheduled. It might be March before I see my Mom and Dad again. UGH! None of my girlfriends are SAHM's, so there is no one to "play" with during the day.
I LOVE being here to watch him grow, change and learn. I know I wouldn't change that for anything.... but i just get so lonely some days. Hopefully I will find someone here and we can email, keep each other's spirits up, become a good support for one another. please feel free to email me! bloemers2@earthlink.net
Thanks for being honest with how you feel, it helps others!
Wendy
Brooke
Mom to Sophie and Brady
=) jessica
I'm fixing to have another baby, though, and I will have a one year old and a newborn, so I will be too busy to think about being lonely! Good luck, and I hope things get better for you soon.
Hi Brandy,
I remember when my daughter was a baby, I was starved for adult conversation. Maybe, you can find a MOPs group in your area(moms of preschoolers). Have you ever considered a home based business? That way you could talk to other adults and work. Some of the business don't take a lot of time away from your family. If you do start looking for a home based business, check out the company you are working with first. There are a lot of scams out there. Good luck!
Jamie
http://www.internetmoms.net/cgi-bin/team.cgi?id=Ja55453&action=show
Praise GOD, for everything you have and don't have.
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