Am I THAT Un-interesting???

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Am I THAT Un-interesting???
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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 11:52am
Maybe it's just because I am having a bad day. Right now, I am contemplating divorce. Since I'm a stay at home mom of 3 children, I'll have to seek employment. ughhh, anyway, then I get on my "grownup" connection, being this board, and see that nobody has even replied to my recent posts. Oh well.
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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 12:12pm

I'm so sorry you're having such a bad day! I hope you and your husband can work things out. Divorce is never easy, for you or the kids.


I'm sorry too that you feel that no one appreciates your posts. I've had days like that, as I'm sure a lot of the ladies here have. The board seems to be slower this week too. I'm just now getting to catch up on reading & responding, since my DH has been home sick all week.


(((((hugs)))))


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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 12:26pm

Sorry that you are thinking about divorce and that you feel that no one cares on here I have fellt that too sometimes but I know people get busy and dont get a chance to post that often. With kids getting sick and everthing. I sure hopw you and your DH can resolve things or if it is better to leave I hope everything will work out for you and your kids.

HUGS
Kerri

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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 3:01pm

Jenn,

I am so sorry things are not going well for you! What has happened to make you feel so bad? Would it help to write your feelings down on a journal as you go through this?

Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family!
Shannon

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Registered: 09-21-2004
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 12:22am

Jenn,


It sounds like your having more than a bad day. ((Big Hugs)) to you!!! I know the board has been a little slower than normal lately. Don't be discouraged...we are here for you! It sounds like things are pretty rough right now and you could use an "ear". Please feel free to post on the board or you can email me through my profile if you need to "talk". I don't know if I can be of much help, but I am a pretty kind person and am willing to "listen".


Traci


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Sun, 03-06-2005 - 2:18pm
So sorry you are having such a hard time right now. Being a stay at home mom is stressful and marriage problems on top of that make you feel like you have no way out. There have been times that I considered divorce when I was extremely mad, but came to my senses when things calmed down. I heard recently something that is so true... to love your spouse is a choice, something you have to work at and have a commitment to. This helped me so much when I went through the "we aren't in love anymore" phase. You know, when it hits you that being married may not be the fairy tale it was when you and DH were dating? I had a really hard time accepting that relationships take on a whole new role with marriage and kids. But deciding to love DH and letting go of the fairy tale made the difference between wanting a divorce and loving him as much as I could. I have no idea if that helps or has anything to do with your situation at all, but wanted to throw that in to think about. Also, have you tried counseling at all? That helps too. My sister got a divorce a year ago and is now going through custody battles, child support battles and the kids are going through hell trying to make sense of it all. She didn't think these issues through at all before filing and the kids are suffering emotionally. She just wanted out and now lives with a guy who has the same issues her first husband had. Hope some of that just gives you something to think about...just think it through really carefully after you have tried everything you can to save your marriage. Good luck and please keep us posted!!
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Sun, 03-06-2005 - 4:03pm
I just wanted to thank all the women out there who posted a reply to my message. I was having such a terrible day and it is so nice to see that people care. Hugs to all of you and again thanks so much. I hope that I will be able to help someone on this board as you have helped me! Hugs, Jenn
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Sun, 03-06-2005 - 10:54pm

Well I don't have kids yet..though we have been TTC for 15 mths. So I don't have any advice about the kids.. But I do have advice about your marriage. All through your marriage, you will fall out of love and in love more than you will ever be able to count. That is apart of love. Not all times can be good..... and not all marriages are going to always be like it was when ya first fell in love with him. You always love him...though sometimes you are not in love with him.. Does that make sense?? Sometimes I have contemplated the big D word....But I come back to my senses...and realize that even if I did divorce my Dh and re married later on... that it would not be a fairy tale. Marriage isn't PERFECT... but you make the best out of it. Just like Life! Maybe it would help if you 2 could get away from the kids a night or so....and just have ALONE time. Remember communication is the key to a successful marriage. Try having a quiet talk with him. Not a talk where ya screaming..but a calm quiet talk. Tell him how you are feeling...and how he can make it better. Also, remember...MEN usually are not the smartest creatures around..LOL! What I mean by that..Is that they don't have good senses..they can't tell what's bothering you or how they can make it better. Only they way they can is if WE tell them.

Hope this helps! Also...Try taking some pampering time out for yourself. :) I am sure you need it.

Christy

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Mon, 03-07-2005 - 1:47am
(hugs) hang in there

Sarah