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| Mon, 10-23-2006 - 1:06am |
RANT RANT RANT
I just wanted to get this out so that I can sleep.
I know that most of you don't know me but I have been reading most of the posts for a few weeks now and I have an issues that I am working out.
I am married but my idiot ex left me while I was 3 months pregnant with my daughter, Hope. Ever since she was born he has been with her a handful of time and she is almost 2. He left me 2 weeks to the day after our 2 year anniversary in a ratty hotel on the wrong side of town. I tried for a while to keep him involved but gave up because he doesn't seem to care. He calls every once in a while but usually I think it is because someone has reminded him that he has a daughter.
Anyway, recently his grandmother called me and asked if she could take Hope for an afternoon to see Lisa, my former mother in law, who hasn't seen Hope in a while. I had no problems with this, even knowing my ex would be there. Maureen (grandmother) called me tonight to tell me that Lisa had some pictures of Hope to give me that were taken on that weekend. This was fine, even great. I knew that they had taken professional pictures because they wanted a four generation picture. Again, that was fine. What upset me was when Maureen told me that my idiot ex had a picture of him and Hope by themselves taken. This is what upset me. He thinks that he can play Daddy. He isn't there most of the time, doesn't call, doesn't give money to help support her . My fiance' Phil has been there since Hope was about 6 months old. He saw her walk, her first tooth, her first word was "Daddy" and she was looking at Phil. Phil has been supporting her, he is her Daddy. What does my ex think he is playing? I have made it very clear how I feel about him and he knows it but he thinks he can play daddy when I am not around. I don't want my daughter confused on who is Daddy. Don't get me wrong. I have no issues with his family and Maureen didn't know it would upset me. I dont blame them. Am I making something out of nothing? Phil says that he understand why I am upset but it isn't worth the effort. We know who is Hope's Daddy.
Any opinions?
Merri

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What I was saying was that my friends birth father was not involved until she was like in her 20s.
I am so sorry that you had to go through him leaving you like that, but it certainly sounds like you are MUCH better off now without him. You and Hope are certainly blessed to have a man who loves her as his own daughter. I know it irritates you, but I agree with everyone that it's probably best to just let everything your ex does roll right off of you like water off a duck's back. Phil is her "daddy", even though your ex may be the biological father. Who knows... someday he may even pull his head out of his rear end and actually start acting like a father. Just try to keep things civil between the two of you, and I'm sure your dd will thank you later on, and realize what a fantastic mom she has :o)
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