Any ideas?

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Any ideas?
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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 11:02pm
This is my first time writing in. I have decided to join because I am looking for all the help I can get! My 8 month old has been the best sleeper until now! He has learned to pull himself up to a standing position in his crib and now I can't get him to go to bed. He will be so tired and I will lay him down and the second I start to leave the room he climbs up and starts to cry. Should I let him cry? And if so how long? He does not fall down he just stands there crying. I don't even know if he knows how to get down. He will be fast asleep in my arms because I had to rock him to sleep and then the second I put him in his crib he's up! Any suggestions?????

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: babyboyp
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 11:07pm
LET HIM CRY! I know it is hard. Really, I know. You are not torturing him if he falls asleep within like 10 or 15 minutes. Beyond that, well, depends who you ask, but really, that's not going to be an issue in most cases. Give it a try, see what happens.

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In reply to: babyboyp
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 11:12pm

Hi and Welcome to the board!


I let my children sleep in my room so if that is something you might be interested in, you could try that.


There is a method called the Farber(I think)

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Registered: 05-03-2004
In reply to: babyboyp
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 11:26pm
I agree with Jenny.

When my son was little his Dr told me to let him cry. You can't let them cry for hours, but most of the time they will realize that you are not going to come in and pick them up and will fall asleep in 15-20 minutes. You have to leave their site otherwise they will cry louder.

Also, this may be a little late to try now, but maybe you can use this tip in the future.

Try to put your child (from the very beginning) in the crib to sleep before they are actually asleep. It is very, very important that they learn that they can fall asleep on their own. This tip has helped lots of my friends!!

I feel for you though. I am having problems again with my son sleeping. He used to be a great sleeper until about 10 months ago. He is almost 4 years old and the Doctors feel that there may be a problem so they are scheduling a sleep study. He constantly tosses and turns and he says he doesn't ever want to sleep. I finally get him to sleep, but his constant tossing and turning wakes him up so then when he is awake I'm awake so neither one of us is getting much sleep. Also, sometimes in the middle of the night he goes into his sister's room and he ends up waking her up. All the while my dh is SOUND, I mean SOUND alseep.

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Registered: 01-06-2004
In reply to: babyboyp
Wed, 08-04-2004 - 8:23am
If you can stand it, let him cry, as long as you know his reasons for crying are not because he needs you to change him, feed him and so forth.
Some children just cannot put themselves to sleep or back to sleep.
My 8 month old is that way, he refuses to sleep by himself, I have to rock him to sleep or feed him.
Good luck and I hope he starts going to sleep again on his own.

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Registered: 10-12-2003
In reply to: babyboyp
Wed, 08-04-2004 - 5:36pm
hey hon, if the problem is that he doesn't want to sleep then i'm all for crying it out, but if it's the standing up and not being able to get down that's the prob then you can be a wuss like me and let him sleep in a playpen! when my ds was that age he'd get up and then not be able to get down, and he'd just scream and scream, so i put him in a playpen with a quilt folded up in the bottom and he'd pass right out if he didn't have those bars to hold onto.

anyway, just a thought...

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Registered: 08-03-2004
In reply to: babyboyp
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 9:45am
Thanks! You are not the only one that has told me that! I will take everyones advice and let you know how it turns out.

Thanks!

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Registered: 08-03-2004
In reply to: babyboyp
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 9:48am
Thank you for the ideas! I will try anything that works!

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Registered: 08-03-2004
In reply to: babyboyp
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 9:57am
Thank you for the ideas. I think the first thing I am going to do is let him cry himself tired. It is so weird...ever since I posted my problem he has layed right down and gone to sleep. Figures! I am sure we will be back to the stand up thing soon though. I will do my best to let him cry though. My husband works nights so it is just me and I think I tend to give in more than he does and I don't have anyone here to tell me not to go in there so it will be a little bit of a challenge but I think I could do it.

Sorry to hear about your little one. I hope your Dr. finds a solution and you get some sleep that you need as well. I am new to this message board thing but I think dh stands for husband and if so I can relate! I think most women can!

Take care and keep me posted on your little ones sleeping problem!

Thanks again!

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Registered: 08-03-2004
In reply to: babyboyp
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 10:00am
From everyone's response I have received I think I will let him cry! It seems to be the most popular solution!

Thank you!

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Registered: 08-03-2004
In reply to: babyboyp
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 10:06am
Thanks for your response. I have tried to put him in his playpen and it worked for his 1st nap then he figured out that he could climb up on this too and some how found a way to stand up in him playpen too so that idea didn't work very long. Yesterday was a good day though. He didn't put up a fight and so far this mornings nap went well too. I have been waiting as long as I could until I put him down for a nap so he is so tired and just goes right down. So far so good but I think I am going to go with the most popular response. Let Him Cry!

Thanks again!!

Karen

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