Anyone lacking romance since childbirth?

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Registered: 03-25-2005
Anyone lacking romance since childbirth?
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Mon, 03-28-2005 - 3:41pm

Hello Everyone!!!!

I wanted to see if anyone dealt with romance issues after the birth of their child. My husband and I werent married very long when we found out we were pregnant. I had a previous miscarriage and complications from the beginning so legitamately he was scared to have sex. Then the 2nd trimester and I felt great but he was still scared. The end of the third was miserable for us both. Then after the c section and the birth of our amazing daughter and I was recovered, it seems like he still doesnt want to. I know he is still attracted to me that is not my concern (however it was at first to be honest) I just dont know what to do to spark things up again. I have tried a lot... HOw did everyone deal with this????

Thanks

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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 12:36am
Well you are not alone and somehow I don't see things in our family ever going back to the way they were. But the bedroom like is definatly different now.

Sarah

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Registered: 11-13-2003
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 1:36am

Through the first months of pregnancy, my dh was afraid to even touch me. Later in pregnancy, he was all over me. After dd was born, the first 2-3 months he was afraid again, and I forced him lol!!!

Mind you, I was the one who was afraid. I was terrified it would feel to him, like a semi truck had just gone through there kwim? lol, sorry maybe tmi!!!

He assured me, all was fine. We didn't do anything like Traci, or Deserie do!!!! (sorry guys, I had to throw that in!!!lol)

But the first couple times after giving birth, we did do a few more adventerous things then we did before. Now it's good, I'm happy, and not self concious...dh, well he's just happy!!!

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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 8:06am

What helped Dh & me was a book called "His Needs Her Needs"... I think the author's name is Willard F Harley. It's a book intended for couples who have had relationship problems (specifically affairs... PTL we've never had to deal with that :o), but is awesome reading even for the happily married couple. It talks about building each other's "love bank" by making deposits rather than withdrawals. It's a great way to build the core of your marriage, then the sex part will just come naturally.


HTH!!!


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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 8:18am

Well, Dh and I had a sort of similar situation. My first pregnancy was a miscarriage so when I got pg again with my seven year old we both held off for

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