Anyone lacking romance since childbirth?
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Anyone lacking romance since childbirth?
| Mon, 03-28-2005 - 3:41pm |
Hello Everyone!!!!
I wanted to see if anyone dealt with romance issues after the birth of their child. My husband and I werent married very long when we found out we were pregnant. I had a previous miscarriage and complications from the beginning so legitamately he was scared to have sex. Then the 2nd trimester and I felt great but he was still scared. The end of the third was miserable for us both. Then after the c section and the birth of our amazing daughter and I was recovered, it seems like he still doesnt want to. I know he is still attracted to me that is not my concern (however it was at first to be honest) I just dont know what to do to spark things up again. I have tried a lot... HOw did everyone deal with this????
Thanks


Sarah
Through the first months of pregnancy, my dh was afraid to even touch me. Later in pregnancy, he was all over me. After dd was born, the first 2-3 months he was afraid again, and I forced him lol!!!
Mind you, I was the one who was afraid. I was terrified it would feel to him, like a semi truck had just gone through there kwim? lol, sorry maybe tmi!!!
He assured me, all was fine. We didn't do anything like Traci, or Deserie do!!!! (sorry guys, I had to throw that in!!!lol)
But the first couple times after giving birth, we did do a few more adventerous things then we did before. Now it's good, I'm happy, and not self concious...dh, well he's just happy!!!
What helped Dh & me was a book called "His Needs Her Needs"... I think the author's name is Willard F Harley. It's a book intended for couples who have had relationship problems (specifically affairs... PTL we've never had to deal with that :o), but is awesome reading even for the happily married couple. It talks about building each other's "love bank" by making deposits rather than withdrawals. It's a great way to build the core of your marriage, then the sex part will just come naturally.
HTH!!!
Well, Dh and I had a sort of similar situation. My first pregnancy was a miscarriage so when I got pg again with my seven year old we both held off for