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Bad marriage? Is this unfair?
| Sat, 03-03-2007 - 10:36am |
Hi ladies... I know I dont post here often, but Im hoping someone can help me.
I will try and make this short and to the point. I have been married since 2001 and we've had our ups and downs but we are really struggling lately. We have a zero sex life, he is always trying and I am always making excuses, I feel like I am always treated like a sex object, hardly any romance like there used to be. Also dh owns his own company and is a consultant, he has been working a few projects here and there but he nothing steady yet. Also our landord informed us that he is selling the house that we rent so not only does dh need to look for a job but we need to look for a new place to live as well, stressful right?
So we were chatting this morning and I was telling him that I am stressed beyond belief, my 17 month old is still very clingy to me and I told him I just need a little time to myself. I have a gym membership but it needs to be renewed and its only 100 dollars for the year. I asked him if we could renew it and he said ok and then I askd him are you sure can we afford it and he started yelling at me. He said if you need the gym to destress whatever just go. Then I told him he sometimes makes me feel bad about myself because everytime we argue it turns it around on me saying that how I say things to him are insulting and that I try and be mean and that is NOT the case!
I spent a couple of hours when baby was asleep looking for a job for him and an apartment, but nothing is ever good enough. I am thinking about seeking professional counseling but Im not sure if it will do any good. I think he is very selfish man.
Also it pisses me off because when he argues if I say the wrong thing he blows up big time and the more I try and calm him down the angrier he gets, ie this morning he threw his coffee all over the kitchen and it got on his new suit I even offered to buy him a new one. I have no idea what to do. I just dont understand how he can want to talk about things he gets mad when I dont open up but then he blows up at me, wtf??? I told him I dont want my daughter to see that either its not healthy. I grew up in that kind of enviroment and I'll be damned if she does too.
I am stressed out to the max and need a vacation soo badly, god its been years since we've had one and it was a short vaca too. I feel very depressed that he wont even listen and talk things about rationally...sigh
He has always said that I am such a lucky woman to have him but he has NO idea! I really think he believes deep down that he is the best that I could do.....WRONG BUDDY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for listening....
Monica
I will try and make this short and to the point. I have been married since 2001 and we've had our ups and downs but we are really struggling lately. We have a zero sex life, he is always trying and I am always making excuses, I feel like I am always treated like a sex object, hardly any romance like there used to be. Also dh owns his own company and is a consultant, he has been working a few projects here and there but he nothing steady yet. Also our landord informed us that he is selling the house that we rent so not only does dh need to look for a job but we need to look for a new place to live as well, stressful right?
So we were chatting this morning and I was telling him that I am stressed beyond belief, my 17 month old is still very clingy to me and I told him I just need a little time to myself. I have a gym membership but it needs to be renewed and its only 100 dollars for the year. I asked him if we could renew it and he said ok and then I askd him are you sure can we afford it and he started yelling at me. He said if you need the gym to destress whatever just go. Then I told him he sometimes makes me feel bad about myself because everytime we argue it turns it around on me saying that how I say things to him are insulting and that I try and be mean and that is NOT the case!
I spent a couple of hours when baby was asleep looking for a job for him and an apartment, but nothing is ever good enough. I am thinking about seeking professional counseling but Im not sure if it will do any good. I think he is very selfish man.
Also it pisses me off because when he argues if I say the wrong thing he blows up big time and the more I try and calm him down the angrier he gets, ie this morning he threw his coffee all over the kitchen and it got on his new suit I even offered to buy him a new one. I have no idea what to do. I just dont understand how he can want to talk about things he gets mad when I dont open up but then he blows up at me, wtf??? I told him I dont want my daughter to see that either its not healthy. I grew up in that kind of enviroment and I'll be damned if she does too.
I am stressed out to the max and need a vacation soo badly, god its been years since we've had one and it was a short vaca too. I feel very depressed that he wont even listen and talk things about rationally...sigh
He has always said that I am such a lucky woman to have him but he has NO idea! I really think he believes deep down that he is the best that I could do.....WRONG BUDDY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for listening....
Monica


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