been a while....

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Registered: 07-05-2005
been a while....
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Tue, 07-10-2007 - 12:46am

Hello.... been a while since I've been to this board. I've been a SAHM for almost 3 yrs now. It was tough ($$) at first, but got better. Well, it's tough again... really tough. I'm so torn. During the day, I just tell myself one of 2 things: 1, it'll get better... or 2, i'll get a nighttime job so I will still be here w/ my 4 yr old. Tonite, while holding my DS, I lost it. I don't know how on earth I would handle not being there every nite holding him... putting him to bed... getting that first hug/kiss as soon as he wakes up. I can't let my DH know.... he's stressed enough. What am I supposed to do?? I couldn't eat dinner, too stressed.... just told DH I just wasn't hungry, again. DH does not want me to have to go back to work, he's really trying. We're getting our home appraised tomorrow (today, Tues) to see if we can re-finiance and get all our bills into one and get a longer note on it (it's 15 yrs now, going for 30)IF we can get that, we'll be ok.... if not, we're gonna be in serious trouble.

I am normally a very happy person, and I'm trying to put up a good front, but I don't know how long I can do this. I do not want to leave my son, he's growing up so fast and I don't want to miss a thing.

I'm sorry.... I don't know where-else to turn. Anyone have advise? Suggestions? I've thought about keeping kids here, but DH doesn't want that either. Please, if anyone has advise, share it.

TIA
Sandy

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Registered: 05-22-2007
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 2:26am

*HUGS*, Sandy. I hope things get better for you guys. Prayers that the appraisal goes as you want it to. I don't have any advice, but I can tell you that I know how you feel. When money starts getting tight I get really stressed out because I feel like I'm not doing anything because I am not bringing in a paycheck. I have to remind myself that if I did keep working or go back to work after the baby's were born that the majority of my money would be going to daycare anyway so it wouldn't matter even if I was working. And I have to tell myself that what I am doing is important because I am taking care of my children. Even though sometimes it gets hard, I know that what we are doing is right. Hang in there, it'll get better.

Tarra

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 10:00am

Thank you Tarra....

The lady that did the appraisal seemed really impressed with what we've done (we added on a large addition) so I'm praying this will go as we want it too.

The worse part is I'm so stressed, I get sick..... no matter how hard I try to put it out of my head.

I KNOW all I do for my family and how important it is, so does my DH, that's why we both want me to stay home. I don't have a degree in anything, so any $ I'd earn would go to child care as well. I do have alot of factory type experience, but DH is firm that I not go back into that type of work (i have carpole tunnel in both wrists).

Thanks again for your reply and prayers..... it means alot.

Sandy

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Registered: 01-18-2007
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 3:09pm

Hugs Sandy!


I'm so sorry you have such a stress in your life.

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