Best discipline methods

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Best discipline methods
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Fri, 04-23-2004 - 11:16pm
I've heard about (and half-heartedly tried) several different discipline therapies. One is called - 1-2-3 magic which uses a lot of time outs. The other is Smart Discipline that works on changing specific behaviors by applying consequences. Has anybody had any luck with either of these or anything else? I have two boys - 3 & 6 - who need to be reined in. Any info on success stories with either of these methods or any others would be appreciated.

Thanks!

Michelle

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-24-2004 - 3:01pm
when my middle child was 3 and 4 she was terrible,, she needed something,, she was in pre-k at the time and they told me about the 1-2-3- magic,, it really did seem to work for her,,, for awhile,, honestly I just stopped doing it,, she is a Lot better now, she is 5 and in Kindergarden. But I do remember it working for awhile, I was not as consitant as I should have been. GL to you,, do you also need to know how it worked? Or do you already know? I know you can find the veido on it at the library,, it is good,
Kim~
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Registered: 03-30-2003
Sat, 04-24-2004 - 9:49pm
I don't know the methods you list, but I do know one thing: NOTHING will work unless it is used 24/7 forever (Well, until your needs and their behaviour change).

The method I use is a montage of many methods. The reason it is not one single method is because my parenting method and my son's personality don't lend themselves to just one style. Most of the parents I know who have well behaved children have some sort of hodge-podge of methods that work for their situation. And the key is not the methods, per se, but the fact that the parents stick to the discipline. They don't "give up" if something no longer works. Instead of quitting, they then modify their methods to something that does work.

For instance, when my son was younger, all I had to do was to put him in the corner for a while and he was punished. Now, at 3 1/2, he won't stay in a corner unless I sit on him (LOL), so I send him to his room. If that doesn't get the message across, then I take a toy away. Likewise less than 6 months ago if he misbehaved in a restaurant, all we had to do was to take him outside for 5 minutes and he got the message. Now, I have to take him home and "ground" him until the next day (or until daddy comes home).

I would suggest that you and your hubby sit down and figure out what your goals are. Then you can go through the books and see what you think you can stick with. Then you need to implement it. You should think about the other parents you know and how their kids are behaved. I would ask those parents what their methods of discipline are. The go for it.

Remember, discipline is something that is ongoing, you will be correcting and punishing and rewarding for years. If you get a method that works now, it will get easier because your child will know what the expected behaviour is and what the consequences are.

Good luck!

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