Burnt Out-Need to vent

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Burnt Out-Need to vent
Tue, 11-09-2010 - 2:34pm

Have not been on the boards since I was pregnant with my first. SAHM of 2 kids. 4

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Tue, 11-09-2010 - 6:41pm


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Mon, 11-15-2010 - 6:37pm

I think you are wise for realizing that you need a break. There is no shame in that. Children are consumers. They are constantly consuming our time and energy. We want to give it, but if we do not refill our own cups, then we feel empty and have little to give. You need a couple of days rest and to do "me" things. Find a babysitter. If you don't know anyone, see if a local daycare center would take them for a maybe 3 days in a row, then just one day a week. This will give you some "me" time. Do NOT use your "me" time to cook, clean, and get the laundry done. Use it to grab a nap, read a book, take an uninterrputed bath, etc. It is completely reasonable that you need a break.

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Mon, 11-15-2010 - 9:24pm
when I started having my kids 15 yrs ago...a friend of mine told me that everyday at 1 o'clock it was nap/quiet time for the kids, so I started that with my kids and they learn quickly that as soon as lunch was done, it was quiet time so that was when I had my down time and most of the time I fell asleep...I had five kids so I had to get creative...as when the older ones did not have naps anymore they had to learn quiet times...but when you get more kids, the younger ones get used to the noise, that when it is quiet, they can't have quiet time cuz they were wondering where everybody was....its too quiet, go figure.... and the other thing she told me was kids needed structure...you get up you have breakfast, play for awhile, lunch, naptime, playtime, that sort of thing so that they know what is coming up for the day...I tried to do that with my kids as they were growing up and in the middle of all that I had to give up my driving cuz of my eyesight deterioating....but I did the best I could... Hopefully you can find some solutions....we mommas need our breaks too.... Susan
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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 5:39pm

I think I could have posted this exact post! Except my kids are 3 1/2 & 9 months. I get mad when DH comes home and wants to just relax.. When the heck do I get to relax?? So know exactly how you feel. He has taken up hunting the past 3 years and he will take a day off to do that and I get SO mad because I can't him to take a day off to hang out with us or to just get out of town. Then during bow & riffle season he does the same thing and even heads home early for work to go out to his "spot" and doesn't come home until dark. My kids are screaming in their room right now and don't want to go get them because I just want to sit down for 5 min... Guess my DH is... Yup, out hunting. I can tell you I feel horrible we are getting take out AGAIN for dinner, 3rd time this week because I just TIRED!!

Okay off to get the little ones....

Just know that you are not the only one feeling like this and I guess too this will pass.

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Registered: 11-25-2007
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 12:53pm

Yeah, some days (some times many in a row) the SAHM gig is not all it is cracked up to be.


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Wed, 12-08-2010 - 8:03pm

I have to respond to this post.