Can't remember the last time I slept more than 2 hours straight...

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Can't remember the last time I slept more than 2 hours straight...
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Sat, 05-14-2011 - 10:52pm

Just some venting...

I knew being a mom would mean interrupted sleep, night feedings, etc. but holy cow! At 6 months old, this kid is waking up somewhere between 8-12 times a night! Sometimes he gets so wound up crying that the only thing to do is nurse hime to get him to calm down. We try to have dad put him back to sleep (since he lacks these darn distracting boobs) but sometimes DS just keeps crying for up to an hour sometimes (that's when we just give up and nurse just to get some rest). Most nights, he would start off in his bassinet (or crib now that he's bigger than the bassiet!) but end up in bed with us by 1:30 and I'd just become the all night boob buffet. This led to my boobs almost falling off from all the constant nursing, so I decided something had to change. I bought the book No Cry Sleep Solution, which worked wonders on getting him to fall asleep at naps and bedtime. No more crying til 10:30 or 11:00-he's in bed, asleep by 7:30 nowadays. It also helped me lengthen his naps from a mere 20-30 minutes to 1 to 2.5 hours. But after 2 months of putting the strategies to use, it did nothing for his drive to wake up constantly and nurse all night. Now, I was determined to keep working on it the way I was because I know this had developed over 6 months, it can't disappear over night. THEN... our 6 month check up came along. Turns out my "little" guy is 28.25 inches long and weighs 28 pounds. His weight isn't anywhere close to the norm. On the growth chart, his line doesn't follow the nice little curve. It shoots straight up. So the dr asks how we're sleeping, knowing it was an issue at his last check up. Turns out she thinks his huge weight gain is due to all this night time eating. She's worried about my health, stress levels blah blah blah... and his growth and the effect of little sleep on his development. So she recommended another book (Healthy Sleep Habits; Happy Child) and wants to see us in 2 months to check his weight and both of our sleep and general health (she's our family doc). Soooo... After talking it over with DH and reading the book and more articles online, we decided a more drastic approach was necessary since this boy is resisting gradual change. So I let him cry last night. I said I'd never do it. But I'm exhausted. My body aches constantly, I'm losing weight which I thought was great at first, but now I'm worried it's more due to depression and lack of sleep and nutrition instead of just breastfeeding. So I let him cry. 12 minutes and he was asleep. Great! I can do this! Then after one little 2 minute wake up, he made it to 11:00 which was when I knew he would be actually hungry, so when he woke up at 11:15, I went and got him to nurse. He was covered in spit up. The poor baby spit up when he was crying and then had to sleep in it. So now came my tears. I nursed him back to sleep, changed his pajamas, changed his crib sheet and almost couldn't put him back in his crib. But I did. In all, he cried for about 35 minutes from bedtime through this morning, which is actually less than he would do on a normal night with us fussing over him trying to soothe him back to sleep. I'm doing it again tonight and so far it's going ok. He only cried for 6 minutes at bedtime (7:00) and has been asleep an hour and a half. I did sneak a peek though and he's clean and dry-no spit up this time, thank goodness. I'm doing all this with DH out of town because I honestly don't know how well he would handle it. He's very sensitive to DS's crying. This just goes against all my instincts. My mom would never have done this. But then again, she's been no help in the sleep department, because according to her, either her memory has faded or my sister and I just weren't that bad. Apparently we slept like, well, like babies. This boy has been extra fussy, colicky, hates naps, hates bedtime, hates going back to sleep and wants to eat all night. It's so foreign. I don't know anyone who has had a baby like this. I feel guilty because when people ooh and aahh over him and see him smile so cute they say "oh he must be such an easy baby, he's so happy" and I just smile and lie and agree with them. I love him more than I can say and we had such a rough start, I'm loving our easy breastfeeding relationship and how he is starting to reach for me and I really finally feel that amazing mama-baby attachment and I feel horrible when I hear him cry in his crib. I want to grab him and snuggle down in our big bed and keep him there! But I know he'll be tempted to eat and nothing else

Manda :)

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Registered: 06-03-2003
I can remember those days....it is hard at times but you can do it....hats off to you for doing it this long and still doing breastfeeding....I think I would be out of my mind....I had a friend who introduced me to breastfeeding and she is a advocate for b/f and it is because of her that I did it as long as I could...the most I could do was 6 months, but I am glad I stuck with as long as I did... Good luck.... Susan
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((HUGS))

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Well hello. I am once again a stay at home mom. I am rading your post and thinking to myself..that poor woman! I have to say though that as a non-bf mother of 2 it wasn't as difficult for me as far as the feedings. However, I did make the horrible mistake of letting DS sleep in bed with me. That was because DH was gone constantly and I couldn't bare to sleep alone. That started right after DS was born and in just the past year I have gotten him out of my bed. Don't get me wrong, he still sneaks into my room at night sometimes but he doesn't start out there anymore. When I worked night shift DH used to let him sleep with him and when I got home..into his own bed he went. It was hell! I love my son but when DD came into the picture I made darn sure not to make that same mistake again. She has always been in her own bed and we were even able to skip the toddler bed stage completely with her. To this day it is nothing unusual to not hear anything from her for a while and go upstairs to find that she has put herself to bed...and she's only 3!