coming off zoloft, diaper changes & more
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| Thu, 08-11-2005 - 5:59pm |
I need some support guys. I've had a rough last couple of days. I started weaning myself off Zoloft this last month. I've taken it for a year now, after I had Jacob. It really seemed to help but I've been feeling like I don't need it anymore and besides we don't have insurance right now so it is very expensive. Since Sunday I haven't been on it at all and I've been having some really bad side effects. My dr. thinks I weaned off too fast so I'm going to start taking a smaller dose for a few more weeks and see how I do. Are there any of you that have taken or is currently on any antidepressents? How are you doing? Anyway, all that to say this, today I was getting so frustrated w/Jacob. He is a handful, especially when it comes to changing his diaper. Ever since he was about 6 months old we've been changing him on the floor because he is so restless, i was afraid he'd fall off the changing table. It's particularly hard to change him when I'm by myself and when he's pooped. But today I think I lost it. He kept squirming and was so messy, I had to practically straddle him! He is so strong and kept arching his back, that I got some poop on my arm! yuck! I ended up yelling at him, saying "stop it, or I'm gonna spank you!" That totally came out of nowhere, for one thing he's only one years old and another thing I am not the spanking type.
I felt so bad, but I felt a little out of control, I didn't do anything to hurt him, just raising my voice and cursing, which is bad enough. He still ended up getting away from me and I had to chase him around to finish cleaning him and put his diaper on. But, before I got it on, he managed to find my wallet, sit down on the floor, and proceed to pee all over it! I'm gonna have to get a new wallet now. Gosh, as I'm writing this I feel alot better, I'm even smiling over it, he's such a stinker! My question is, how do you other moms do it?? Can you give me some good advice on how to successfully change his diaper w/out him running away from me and me ending up cursing to the high heavens? I know it's partly my hormones(it's that time of the month) and the zoloft wearing off, but I still feel like I shouldn't get this mad at him, I mean I was really angry at the little squirt. Do you ever feel like, especially those that have just one at home that you're w/all day by yourselves, that he or she just has it in for you? Is that crazy of me to even think that? How do I discipline him now w/out letting my anger out to him?
After reading this I want to make it clear that I wasn't cursing at him, but I did yell at him that one time saying I'd spank him. I guess it's not really yelling, more me raising my voice and letting out exasperated tones, but it still bothers me that I do that in front of him. He is starting to mock me, like when I let out a big sigh, he'll do the same thing. I don't want to teach him that that's how you deal w/your feelings, but I don't know what else to do. What do you guys do in these situations?
Jenny & Jacob(7/28/04)


I have a suggestion about diaper changing. I do this myself due to Dalton being the same way as your Jacob.....
I give him something to play with while I change him. It is never the same thing each time, for he would lose intrest and it would not work.
Try giving him a book, a toy, or a diaper or wipe to hold.
Maybe put on a favorite tv show on while you change him so his mind is off what you are doing.
I hope you are able to get him to calm down during diaper changes.
Also, good luck with the Zoloft weaning. You can do it, just take your time and before you know it, you will have been off it for months and be as if you never even took it.
Wow, that all sounds SOO familiar. I'm currently on Wellbutrin and have been on Paxil and prozac since ds was born. I'm finding the Wellbutrin works the best for me. I made the mistake of going off of it a couple of months ago and discovered that I just can't do it w/o it. I have to have it. So now I'm back on it and starting to feel human again. Well, except for this week when I've had a possible gallbladder attack and now I have some kind of virus or something. Ugh..
Anyway, your son sounds like mine too. He doesn't stay still for anything! And yes, there have been many, many, many days where I thought he was just out to get me. Like he was my punishment or something. Fortunatly the older he gets the better he gets(well, most days anyway).
For discipline, I'm not real sure how to help there. I wasn't very good about that stuff when ds was that age(I'm MUCH better now..lol). But I agree w/the above poster that trying toys or maybe even try a short movie or something when he has a poopy diaper. Save it for only then and maybe it'll capture his attention enough that he'll lay still.
Good luck!!!!!
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((Big Hugs)) to you. I do not know anything about anti-depressents but I hope it all works out for you.
as for the diaper changes I used to do Mel's idea. Also my baby nephew used to be such a bugger to change. What I did to solve this was to role play with him. I had a baby doll and let him help me change the diaper. I made sure to say things like...."oh look how still this baby is being, what a good boy the baby is" When I changes his diaper I would say the same thing..."Oh look how still you