Deciding to be a stay at home mom - HELP
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| Fri, 11-05-2004 - 11:39am |
Samantha has been sick ever since she started daycare. She seems to really like the interactivity with other kids though. Even though I'm only working 20 hours a week right now, it seems like I can't keep up with everything there is to do. I seem to get burned out easily. I'm also scared that I may get burned out hanging with my daughter if I was a full time mom too though! We live in the foothills of Colorado. I have always worked in the past and I tend to be a bit shy. I'm scared of so much, loosing my identity, friends, respect, money, control of money, sense of accomplishment, etc. I've never been without a paycheck and contributing.
I don't know where to start or what to ask really. It feels like such a huge decision, but shouldn't I just jump at the chance to quit work. AHHH. I would like to think I have time to make up my mind, but my husband wants us to figure this out this weekend while we are planning around benefits for next year. We've talked back and forth about it. Now we need to decide. AHHH Panic . . help help

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Everyone is different but personally for me the decision was easy once I worked in a daycare.
I used to teach pre-k, then my first came along and I taught pre-k's to read out of my home. When my second was two I put my older son in the first grade(I had been homeschooling him...different story though).
My older sons teacher was the owner of this private school/daycare. She asked me to substitute and I agreed since I could bring my little one with me and he could go to whatever class I taught.
I can't tell you how sad it was to watch the two year olds there. It was like watching little zombies. It did
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i think the adjustment is not really about being a SAHM or not.
it's about how you schedule your time, set up your life.
that's something you'd have to do if you made any adjustment- even if it wasn't related to becoming a mom.
like if you moved to another state or changed career paths, etc..
good luck!
just have hope & also you can always revise as you go.
Jordan
I like my job. But I'm feeling that I can't give fully to any one area (home, work, Samantha). So, I'm taking a leap of faith. I'll either land on my feet . . . or learn how to fly.
As for missing work -- I still need to go back and clean out my office. That should tell you something about how much I miss it -- actually, I think I'm partly procrastinating b/c I don't want to cut the final strings, but also b/c I just dread seeing everyone. (I got a little bit of attitude from a few of the working moms about my decision, and I sort of don't want to deal with it again.)
All in all though, I do not regret my decision one bit. My husband has been very supportive, and now that I've made the decision and (pretty much) moved on, I feel such a sense of relief. When I wake up and see that little face smiling up from the crib, I could just cry knowing that I don't have to leave her, and that I get to spend my day just being with her. Hope that helps! Feel free to post any specific questions and I'll try and help if I can.
Tina
I'm still going back and forth. I may take some time off to "pretend" and see how I do.
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