Dh vent!

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Dh vent!
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Fri, 11-24-2006 - 9:02am

Hi ladies! I hope everyone enjoyed their Thanksgiving! :O)
I am sooo freaking angry right now and I really need to vent! :(
I woke up this morning at 530 am to clean, dd and dh were still sound asleep. When they woke up it was around 7:30am, I needed a little break because I was exausted so I sat down and drank my coffee. DD started crying for me so I asked dh to please entertain her for a few (his idea of entertaining her lately is putting on barney cd's grrrr!!!)
It was clear that, was not what dd wanted. So as always I stopped what I was doing and entertained her.
Dh asked me to give him a hug and said how nice the house looked
WHAT?!?!?!?!? Then he started kissing me and said cmon Im mushy, I was soo mad! He has not helped me clean in a very long time, instead he messes up the place! I am sick of our house looking like crap lately (we had a housekeeper but she injured her back and we have to find a replacement and SOON!
I am still working part time at night and buying most of Danielle's clothes and mine, I love being a SAHM, but dh would get stupid when I wanted to buy things, cheap bastard!
He just doesnt get it when I tell him I want the house clean and when my Danielle is here she usually wants my undevided attention so it makes it impossible to get anything done!
I just dont understand how living in filth is accepitble to him and I am NOT a cleaning fanatic like he thinks.
Every weekend I say sweetie lets do laundry bag yours up please and he ends up not doing it and I cant do it myself because he usually wants us to do it together, but he likes waiting until the last possible minute, so finally we are doing LOTS OF laundry today...argh!!!
Dont get me wrong he is a good guy but he just pisses me off sometimes! :O(
Ideas, suggestions please?!?!?

Ugh!!! Thanks for listening ladies!!!
Have a great day!

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In reply to: mom2babydanielle
Fri, 11-24-2006 - 9:14am
I am sorry you are havign a rough morning already.
I hope you guys get this fixed. Maybe you should talk to him and let him know how you feel.
Good luck and lots of hugs to you.......

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In reply to: mom2babydanielle
Fri, 11-24-2006 - 9:20am
Thank you! Im going to talk to him calmly about it tonite, I just reread my email and I sound like such a b#$## but Im really not, I promise! I just work really hard taking care of the house and my daughter and working nights, I just wish he could help a little, unfortunately I guess Im NOT supermom as hard as I try to be :(
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Registered: 10-11-2005
In reply to: mom2babydanielle
Fri, 11-24-2006 - 9:28am

I had a similar problem with my DH

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Registered: 12-20-2005
In reply to: mom2babydanielle
Fri, 11-24-2006 - 9:37am
Ooooh,I LOVE your idea Tanya! I wish I would have thought of it this morning lol!
The only thing Im worried about is it backfiring, because when the house gets messy or a little dirty, dh doesnt seem to mind :( and I cant live that that!
God, you should see his office, yucko!!!!!
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Registered: 10-11-2005
In reply to: mom2babydanielle
Fri, 11-24-2006 - 10:45am

LOL! I know it's gonna suck for a while, but think of it as a small sacrifice now for a better life later.

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In reply to: mom2babydanielle
Fri, 11-24-2006 - 12:10pm

I agree with Tanya! I'd be striking!! I'd even make a sign: ON STRIKE, and hang it somewhere! I just wanted to add that you might try talking to him first about how you feel.

Good luck!

Sofia




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Registered: 09-22-2006
In reply to: mom2babydanielle
Sat, 11-25-2006 - 2:56pm
I have the same problem with my DH.

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