DH won't go back to work yet
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DH won't go back to work yet
| Sun, 01-16-2005 - 3:48am |
DH has been on Parental Leave since DS was born. He is entitled to 34 weeks, but he's not staying off that long (I hope). The problem is that he won't go back to work yet! He only gets 55% of his wages, I'm a SAHM and our Savings is diminishing daily. He's just too lazy to go back. I suggested to him to go back to work then go back on Parental Leave in the summer. (He can use the left over time as long as DS hasn't turned one). It's nice having him home to help, but now he's just driving me crazy! He just won't listen.
-Haermoni
Dreyton John born November 15th

Wow! This is a tough one! However, if it was me..... this is so bad..... I would make sure he has his fill of being a stay-at-home parent. He would have a daily list of do's if he were my husband. I'm sure after doing household chores and caring for baby would be enough for him to want to back to work. Just a thought....
Jamie Leigh
LOL... ITA!!!
My Dh tried to pull that with our first, although he took off work before the baby came, so that he sat around the house for 2 weeks doing nothing but waiting (or at least tried). I sent him out and put him to work as much as possible, and as much as I love him, I couldn't WAIT for him to go back to work!
Let him know how much you appreciate his help, but the biggest part of being a responsible parent is providing for the family's needs. Remind him of how much fun it will be to take the kids to Disneyland, etc when they get older, and you'll need money in savings to do it. Maybe if you get him excited and set some goals together, he'll be more willing to go
DH told me that he'll go back to work when he feels like it. He recently told me that we feels that I want him to go back to work so I can 'use' his money. Hello? We're a family I'm not 'using' his money, he's providing for the four of us. If I could go back to work I would but I have an almost 4 year old and a 2 month old to care for for now. He acts if he's always been the only one working. I went back to work when our first DS was 18 months old. When we met he didn't work, he started working a 'real' full-time job 5 years ago. I've been working full-time since the day he met me (7 years ago), even before that.
-Haermoni
(hugs)
I know I would be going crazy if my dh was home with me for that long too.
I would think he would like the idea of taking the time later. Maybe you could go away for a week and leave him alone with the baby then he might see that it is not all he thinks it is to be at home and he will want to go back to work.
Hope you can get him out of the house soon.
Sarah
well, all I can tell ya then is to just lay off of him... If he wants to sit on his bum and deplete the savings account, just let it be. Obviously he feels like it's not important to have the money in savings, and when it's gone he'll go back to work. Then you can give him the "I told you so" speech if you need the money later...
In the meantime, just hang in there and do the best you can to not spend so much.
(((hugs)))