Difficulty meeting other Moms

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Difficulty meeting other Moms
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Thu, 11-02-2006 - 1:48pm

Hi again!
Sorry for hogging the board today, I promise to make this short and sweet! ;)
I took my daughter to a playgroup yesterday, its called mygym kinda like a gymboree.
It was our first time there and the staff were great and the class was cute and they had more to offer compared to gymboree.
The problem is I cant seem to meet other Moms! I try and make small talk, but it seems like noone is really interested. My daughter is beautiful and very outgoing and I feel hurt because I feel like she ends up missing out.
I just get the feeling that the other Moms are snooty and as though everyone is sizing each other up!
I am 32 years old but I feel like Im in high school again and like I am trying to fit in.
I DO have friends but they are all not married, no kids.
Advice, opinions please?

THANK YOU!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 11-02-2006 - 2:00pm
I say keep going and don't let those women ruin your daughter's and your fun. But that is just me talking. If I let others deter me from doing things, I would go crazy. :)
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Registered: 12-20-2005
Thu, 11-02-2006 - 2:09pm
Thanks Tami!
I guess Im taking it personally maybe, I just dont know...
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Thu, 11-02-2006 - 5:19pm
Hugs.
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Thu, 11-02-2006 - 5:55pm

Unfortunately, there are cliques in the stay-at-home-mom world just like there are in high school. It does sound like that group was indeed snobby, but I wouldn't base my entire search for new friends on that one group, if I were you. If you really like the music class, keep on going and keep on making an effort to get to know the moms. If not, keep looking elsewhere until you find another group, hopefully one that is more welcoming. There are lots of other options:

1. storytime at the local library
2. support groups like MOPS, Mothers and More, and The Moms Club - I'd be willing to bet that any of these groups would be more friendly, because that's what they're all about - supporting moms
3. local church groups
4. the YMCA offers Mommy and Me classes for different ages
5. Go to the park and strike up conversations with other moms - I had to do this a lot

Just keep looking - it may take a while, but you'll find your niche eventually! Don't let this one bad group get you down. Good luck!

Paige

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 11-02-2006 - 7:21pm

Aww, poor you! Your post made me sad! I wish I lived near you--I'd hang with you anytime, and your beautiful daughter could play with my beautiful daughters!

I live in Snootyville, so I can relate. The majority of moms near me are soooo rich and snooty you have to sit on your hands not to smack them, LOL! So I know what you're going through, and the cliques certainly don't stop with high school. It's really hard to make friends in a group like that. A lot of times the moms who go already know each other and have their established groups.

I joined a Twins' Club after my twins were born, and I've also gotten to be friends with my neighbors. There are moms' groups that are comparable to the twins' group I belong to that is a great place to meet friends. I made so many friends in my Twins' Club. I'd check the local paper's classifieds for ads for moms' groups if I were you.

Good luck!! And you are NEVER hogging the board, LOL!

Sofia




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Thu, 11-02-2006 - 8:39pm

Thanks ladies! I read all the posts and I feel much better.
Sofia, you are sweet! Too bad we cant get together for a playdate,
we would have a great time!

Moni

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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 7:33am
Aw, that stinks!!
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Registered: 03-14-2005
Fri, 11-03-2006 - 10:07am

Paige had some fantastic ideas for you!
it could be too that some of them aren't necessarily snooty, but shy. Try to single out someone who seems to be in the same predicament and befriend her. Sometimes it just takes being around people a lot before they open up to you :o)

*edited b/c I can't spell

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Edited 11/3/2006 11:09 am ET by cl-momof3littlepunkins

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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 10:07am
Thank you Michelle!
Your post was very sweet! Too bad we dont live closer. Taylor is soo beautiful and she looks like a sweet and happy little girl.
Im going to try another class with D, hopefully it will be a better experience!
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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 1:24pm

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