Disiplining toddler w/ temper?

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Registered: 12-31-2003
Disiplining toddler w/ temper?
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Thu, 06-10-2004 - 12:52pm
I have a 18 month old and another boy due in Nov. My DS has the worst temper. It's not that he throws tantrums all the time, but sometimes, it's that he gets so angry over everything. If a toy doesn't go where he wants it to, or something is in his way, or he doesn't get what he wants he goes crazy. He'll hit his toy on the wall over and over, throw his toys and beats himself up on things. He has a bruised nose and eye right now because he hit his head on our window seal. But then if he hurts himself, he sure wants to be picked up then. He is extremely independent. He really is smart, he just tries too hard sometimes. He even does this during church. I am on my last nerve. I often become the wall when he wants to hit something. He just recently got his first hair cut. All of the curls gone, so now he's pulling my hair (he's not just playing either) I don't know how to disiplinethis kind of behavior. He gets his hand slapped and his bottom spanked pretty often. If you just say no, even loudly, he just starts crying. Talk about mood swings-LOL! I am also very concerned about how he is going to treat a new baby. Please help me- anything!

TIA

Denise
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Registered: 05-08-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 3:14pm

Denise,


People will probably give you lots of conflicting advice on this subject and I am sure the spank/not to spank debate could get started... but here is my 2cents.


My 2 year old and youngest has such a hard time sometimes. I swear the first day he was born he showed singns of being colic. This lasted for 8 months! All my training as a child care teacher and coordinator has had to come into play with dealing with my baby! He is absolutely relentless when he wants something! He has had temper tantrums for up to 1 1/2 hours

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Registered: 06-10-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 5:07pm


3 words.. foot in ass :)

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Registered: 04-26-2003
Mon, 06-14-2004 - 1:49pm
I can relate to the temper. My older dd (22 months) has a temper and gets mad at her toys. I usually ignore her, but if it gets bad I will take the toy away from her and tell her "temper". If she screams because she is mad (for example if I take something away from her) I will put her in her room and shut the door. She knows now if she is bad she has to go to her room and it works well. I think the biggest thing is that they do not change overnight. I have seen her get better as she gets older. I also think the never give in to them is really smart too. I have never given in to her. I also only tell her not to do something once and if she doesn't stop I will make her stop so she knows to take me seriously (not just empty threats). It is hard though. Hang in there, it does get better.