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Divorce?
| Fri, 11-17-2006 - 7:52am |
I haven't posted in awhile. But wanted to ask... How does a sahm go about a divorce when she dosnt work and couldnt afford to raise children herself on a job she could get. And have 2 small children. I am in a unhappy situation and its on and off for years now, and Im so sick and tired of it. I wanted to go to counceling for communication help with my spouce but he's not interested in seeing anyone. I guess he thinks its all my problem. He for some reason wants to stay in an unhappy situation . He says he dosnt want to give up but yet he dosnt want outside help. Any suggestions? I guess I will have to stay untill the kids are on their own? But Im already 42 and my youngest is 3 it seems too far away to wait to live a happier life. Thanks for listening Lisa

Lisa,
I emailed you a reply :-)
(((Lisa))) I'm so sorry! I don't think you should stay if you're so unhappy and there's no hope of making the situation better, but that's just MHO. Life's too short! Have you told your husband that you want a divorce? Maybe the threat of that will prompt him to seek help.
I guess if you did leave him, you'd have to go to work. Maybe the lesser of 2 evils?
If you still love him underneath, it's worth working on and trying. Just MHO.
I feel so sad for you. I wish I had better advice, but I'll say a prayer for you.
((((Hugs))))
Sofia
The only advice I can give to you, is go to marriage counseling and trying EVERYTHING in your power to make your marriage work if that's what you want. A divorce should be your last resort, and trust me it's hell going through one. Me and my husband fight more than when we lived together, it's bad.
And if your dh doesnt want to go with you to couseling, go by yourself.
I know it's easier said than done, I was in a miserable situation, and I wanted my marriage to work, but my husband had other plans. Please do not stay for the sake of the kids if you are truly unhappy, that is no way to live. I hope this help, and goodluck.
Kate
((((HUGS)))) I am so sorry you are going through this.
best of luck,
arie
Your situation sounds familiar to me.
I think it is always a hard choice for anyone to make when divorcing and also harder when you have kids and you are a sahm.
I worry sometimes just at the fact if something happen to Chris, I would have 3 kids and no job in over 5 years.
I wish you the best with your situation.
I do think to stay in a situation like that is not fair to you or the kids. I know I have said I would, but have been given good advice about not doing that and for many reasons.
No matter what you choose to do, I wish you the best.