Do I stay or do I go? Working during a high risk pregnancy...

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Do I stay or do I go? Working during a high risk pregnancy...
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Tue, 08-28-2012 - 5:47am

I'm currently living in India. Due to the time difference between the US and India, those of us that work for US based companies, work night shift. Currently my shift is 5:45 pm - 3:15 am. I see no issue with it. I've been working it long enough and I'm adjusted fine. However.....Indian doctors don't think women are cut out for night shift and the first thing they tell females (well, anyone really) is that due to health concerns, they need to get off the night shift. Naturally my doctor told me the same at my very first appt. She says it's due to not getting proper rest and eating on time, which is crap because I sleep just fine (generally) and eat three times a day. Additionally I'm considered to be high risk because of my age and my medical background (no concrete proof of any prior pregnancies, mc's etc - it's a long story I'll save for another day).

The problem is, my husband is adament I quit my job if my employer can't give me a day shift position. My employer can't, and my husband knows that very well (we met while working for the same company). Additionally my employer is paying me a mint, by Indian standards and they're sponsoring the visa that allows me to be here with my husband. Furthermore, I don't want to quit. I'll go mad within the first week and I'm sure be way more stressed out then if I was at the office. We've discussed me staying with his family (remember - this is India) until the baby's born, but as much as I adore our weekly visits, cannot imagine a more vivid version of my own personal hell.

Please don't get me wrong, in no way am I saying I'm putting my job or my salary before the health of my child. What I'm asking is - what is the real risk? Should I just clam up and quit? On a selfish note, I know if something does happen and I lose the baby, my husband and his family might harbor some resentment which will just pile ontop of the resentment I already have for myself in such a situation. Is it better just to do everything the doctor says in order to be on the safe side, that way if something does happen, at least I can say I did everything per Dr's orders?

Thanks in advance for sharing your thoughts.

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Registered: 09-07-2000

What kind of work do you do?  Is it active work or are you sitting at a desk on a phone and computer?  If it's desk work, I would continue on.  If you do start to feel stressed out and tired, then I would reconsider, but a blanket "stop the night shift work" for all pregnant women is a bit much.  After all, pregnancy isn't an illness.  Unless they've got you lifting 40lb. boxes over your head, I don't see how it's harmful. 

Are all doctors in India really like this?  Would it be possible to find another doctor who doesn't share this point of view?

BTW, welcome to the board!  -And I worked customer service from home while pregnant.  It wasn't a big deal at all.  :smileyhappy: