Don't know what to do

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Registered: 01-06-2004
Don't know what to do
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Sun, 10-15-2006 - 10:20am

As some of you know, my sister and her ex are fighting over who gets my nephew.


Now her ex is harrasing me. He is sending me messages on my myspace page, accusing me of things I have not done and calling myself and my family liars.
I just don't knwo what to do. I ahve ignored them and have not responded, cause I know that is what he wants.

Is there a way to do something about it?

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Sun, 10-15-2006 - 11:01am

Is there any way for you to block him on your Myspace page?


If it were me, as long as it were not threatening in nature, would just save his messages somewhere (so that if it continues you can show a history of harassment), and ignore it. He's probably just trying to blow off steam and right now you're the target.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Sun, 10-15-2006 - 12:15pm
HI sorry you are caught up in the middle, when people feel threatened and desperate they lash out. I think you can definetely get a restraining order against him if he has threatened you. Other than that ignoring him is a good line to take.
best wishes arie
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Registered: 08-03-2006
Sun, 10-15-2006 - 1:38pm

I agree with Tanya. Keep a printed copy of anything he sends to you. It may be evidence against him in court to show how fit he is as a father. He is likely just venting and you are his current target, but if at anytime you feel threatened I would contact the police. If you have proof of his harrassment (by printing all his messages) then it will help you in that avenue too.

Oh and if you are really feeling upset about it and do not want to print things off....just make your my space page private.

Sorry you are dealing with this! HUGS!

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Registered: 03-17-2005
Sun, 10-15-2006 - 3:31pm
You need to keep a log of what he is doing and make sure that your sister's attorney is aware of it and is able to get proof of what he is doing so it can be used against him in court.

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Registered: 03-14-2005
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 9:13am

((((Mel))))
I'm so sorry you are being dragged into the middle of this! What a terrible situation!!!

This is straight from the myspace help section:

"The best thing to do if and when you encounter such a situation is simply ignore them... 99.9% of the time they will soon leave you alone. Remember, you can always remove the person from your Friend List (they will then no longer be able to add Comments to your Profile page), delete any Comments they leave on your Profile page, and you can even delete any messages they send you via the MySpace Mail system without opening them. By NOT responding to offending user (i.e., NOT giving them any attention, NOT letting them get a "rise" out of you), most people will simply go away.

You may also view their profile and click "Block User", which will prevent them from contacting you. Annoying people get bored very fast when you don't allow them to annoy you. If someone threatens you, contact law enforcement immediately. "

So it sounds like you need to delete him from your friend list, visit his profile and block him as a user. I hope he leaves you alone after that!

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Registered: 01-06-2004
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 9:22am
Thanks, was not sure if you could bock on myspace. My page is private, but didnt know if I could stop people from emailing me too.
Thanks a lot.

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Registered: 11-13-2003
Tue, 10-17-2006 - 1:49am

Mel, I havent read the other responses yet, but the first thing that came to my mind was, document everything, all the online posts and emails...PRINT THEM OUT, and, call your sisters lawyer and tell him/her personally that you are being harassed by this A-hole over your sisters custody battle. If need be, take up a joint suit with your sis and charge him with harrassent. (probably cost you more money than you'd get, but at least the judge should be aware of his behavior)

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