Ever feel isolated??

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Ever feel isolated??
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 1:01pm

I just found this board and am so happy that it exists! I love being a mom to my 14 week old son, but it is certainly a hard adjustment being home with him. I have lots of friends and a loving husband, but no one seems to understand the stresses of taking care of a baby all day. It is very isolating. I don't want to work and leave him in daycare, although I actually think that would be easier in some ways, but I don't want to miss this amazing time in his life. I just wish it was a more valued and supported role.

Thanks for listening (reading)!
Stefanie




Edited 4/19/2006 9:55 pm ET by mom2cedar

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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 1:18pm

I think everyone feels that way at one time or another. I know I do. For me it's hard because I don't know a lot of people where I live and the people I do know, most of them work and have no children so it puts a barrier between us. It's like we're from different worlds. But I find that just staying busy helps. I'll take my baby, Noah, out and about. We'll walk around downtown, go to the library, when the snow melts we'll go to the park, we go window shopping, get coffee. He's kind of like my adorable little accessory that I can't go anywhere without. He's the new purse. LOL It is when I'm stuck at home and bored or tired that I start to feel like I'm all alone. So I try to avoid that. But sometimes, it's nice too.


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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 1:35pm

Oh I know, isn't it terrible how devalued raising the future is!? If you'd like the possitive reinforcement and encouragement that you know you need I highly and totally recommend you tuning in to Dr. Laura on AM radio. It's the "I'm doing the right thing" pick-me-up that we SAHM's sometimes need.

And I think we all feel isolated some time or another which is pretty silly when I think of it because we're not isolated really, heck we can't go to the bathroom alone 9 times out of 10, we ALWAYS have a little shadow! LOL!

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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 3:00pm

Exactly..your comment about 'wish it was a more valued and supported role'. That is exactly how I've been feeling about it. I stay at home with my 4.5 year old and 21 month old and I do feel very isolated alot of the time. I have found these boards to be a good support. It's nice to be able to share with people who understand. There are alot of moms out there with similar situations to us. Glad you found this board. :)

jenn

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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 4:30pm
I think anyone who stays home for a living feels this way. It's never easy to be home with kids all day and not have interaction with adults from time to time.
Have you tried joining a moms group or playgroup? This way you are interacting with people who are doing the same things as you and can understand?

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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 4:51pm

Hugs to you! Just know that what you do is THE most important job ever. We are going to need all these great kids to grow up with some values in our fast paced world. I hope you can find a few sahm friends that live near you! If not try matchingmoms.com meetup.com and mops.


Also this board is great!


Traci

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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 5:04pm

As the others have said, all moms feel that way from time to time. I worked for a while when my daughter was a baby, and after I quit my job I had a very hard time getting used to the new routine. All of my friends still worked, and I felt very isolated. I joined the MOMS Club for a while, and it really helped to make some friends. Do you know of any playgroups in your area? You could try www.momsclub.org (at least I think it's .org and not .com). Or you could go to google and just type in the name of your city, along with words like "moms" and "playgroup." You might check your neighborhood newsletter for playgroups, and if you can't find one, perhaps you could start one. I bet you'll come up with something.

Another thing that helped me was to find a hobby or two. After a couple of years of playgroups, I got tired of talking about birth experiences and poop. (Not that there's anything wrong with talking about those things, but it's also good to expand your horizons.) I took up running, and formed a little training group consisting of mostly women, some of whom are moms. Okay, so when we run we talk about birth experiences and poop, but you get the idea ... hobbies are good.

Just remember, things will get easier, but you need some grownups around you during the day. Good luck!

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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 5:08pm
When my son was younger(he is 3 now) I felt a lot more isolated than I do now for some reason? Like when we would go to the park, I would just feel really alone. Maybe it's because he is older and we can interact a lot more. 14 months is a tough age, just hang in there, it does get better :)
kate

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Registered: 04-19-2006
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 5:44pm
hiya that,s how i use to feel,but it does get better,i have 5 childrens,u b ok
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 9:56pm
Thanks so much for the replies ladies! It just helps so much that you all understand!
Hugs!!!!
Stefanie
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Thu, 04-20-2006 - 12:20am

This board rocks!




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