Ever feel sad staying home?

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Ever feel sad staying home?
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Wed, 11-28-2012 - 4:32pm

I am embarrased to post this, but am curious if there is anyone else whom is a SAHM that feels this way.

I have my Bachelor's Degree in Psychology and before children, I worked full time. I have been at SAHM now for 8 years. The first several years I struggled with depression being home while everyone else I knew left for work. When DH was at work, I often felt sad because I was home. I felt like everyone was out working in society while I sat home every day. It was a huge adjustment. I do not regret being a SAHM, but did and still don't understand why I would feel depressed when everyone was gone at work. I was home working, doing a important job, but I struggled accepting it. Does that make sense? We choose for me to stay home.

Has anyone else who is a SAHM felt this way or went through this type of struggle? If so, what made it better?

Thanks for reading.

Heidi

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Registered: 11-22-2012
Wed, 11-28-2012 - 5:06pm
I was only a stay at home mom as a teenager, so its hard to say. What I can guess is that you're bored and miss working, nothing worng with that. Have you talked to your husband about going back to work? He may be alright with it. Give it a shot. :)
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Registered: 08-31-2011
Wed, 11-28-2012 - 11:32pm

You are absolutley not alone! There are days when I want nothing more then to go back to my old job. I love being at home with my kiddos and I wouldn't trade it for anything. But some times it's nice to have some adult interaction that doesn't involve the kids. Have you thought about looking for a part time job? If it's something that would work for your family, it might be a great way to get out of the house for a few hours every week and still be at home when it's important. I hope you can find something that makes staying at home easier for you! -Maggie

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Thu, 11-29-2012 - 8:47am

Thank you both for taking time to reply, I appreciate your support.

My husband is a meterologist for the National Weather Service where they do rotating shift work.  Each week, he works a different shift and it rotates.  I do have a part time job that I have had for almost 12 years now (I work with women and children who have lived with domestic violence).  But, it is extreme part time because with a child in school and my DH schedule, I can work a few days a month or PRN.  So, that is good.  I just have days at home when he is at work and I feel down.  It comes and goes.

 

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Registered: 06-01-2008
Sun, 12-16-2012 - 8:26pm

I felt like that too when I came home to raise my family. I missed the interaction of other co-workers and the patients I took care of. I had four kids in six years so for me, it was always a bit of a struggle to pack everything up and go hang out somewhere. And we didn't have much funds to do pricey, fun activities. So I felt sort of stuck. Our income was cut almost in half and it was hard. So I went online searching for something I could do to bring home an income and also look for other mom connections. I did the whole message boards and social networking sites, and while they were fun, they still made me felt rather empty. But I continued to search for something else. Eventually I found what I was looking for. The best of both worlds. I found a community of moms from all walks of life from around the country, most of them SAHM like us, who were working from home. They came to connect with other women with children. What I found was that other mothers were missing interaction with other mothers and feeling the need to add to their family's budget. I fell in love with all of the women and we would chat and support eachother both online and by phone. I have developed wonderful relationships with these moms most of whom I have never met in person. This community has kept me feeling like I am in the loop so to speak. We all work around our kid's schedules so a lot of times we hear eachother's kids in the background while we are talking on the phone working our business. It is fun. I found what I was looking for and it feeds my heart. My best advice for you is to find something where you feel appreicated and supported and that you are recognized for all that you do as a mom.

Wishing you success! 

Amy - Mommy to four little ones 9 and under

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