Feel taken advantage of

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Feel taken advantage of
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Fri, 09-16-2011 - 2:30pm

I am a stay a home mom with 3 kids ages, 5, 6 and 9.

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Registered: 02-28-2007
Sun, 10-16-2011 - 12:44pm
Oh my I totally relate...I was just about to post my own vent!
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 09-22-2011 - 1:21pm
I like to keep it really, really simple too. When I was teaching I had 3 rules: Respect yourself, respect other people, respect property. That pretty much covers EVERYTHING. With pre-school kids you could take it down a notch. No hurting (covers kicking, hitting, biting, etc.), speak nicely, do as you are told. More than 3-5 rules gets to be too much, even for older kids.

Manda :)

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Registered: 09-07-2000
Thu, 09-22-2011 - 10:09am
Oooh, I like the idea of a simple list of rules. I'll have to file that away for if (or when) it's needed down the road.

Yes, I was wondering how things were going too. We'd love to hear an update.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 6:51pm
Just wondered how things were going. Have you talked to the other mom yet? I'd take a note from SuperNanny and make a (very simple) list of rules for the kids to follow with specific consequences (make a time-out chair or something). It is possible to make wild kids behave. They learn very quickly that they can behave a certain way with their parents but at school/daycare/babysitter they have different expectations.

Manda :)

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Registered: 06-22-2010
Sat, 09-17-2011 - 2:43pm

Ugh I get this one too!! I only have 1 DD & she's in 3rd grade but there are a couple of people I have had to tell, sorry I can't raise your kids for you. (For free!) ITA with the other ladies & you need to put your foot down right away or it's going to

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Registered: 10-15-2001
Fri, 09-16-2011 - 3:44pm
I'd be pretty upset too. I agree that you need to talk to her and explain that you expected someone to get them at 3:30 and anytime over that was going to cost extra. I agree with setting the ground rules and enforcing with time outs if you need to. If thigs don't change I would let her know that it isn't working out. I'm sure the money is nice but not if it is going to cause problems with your kids and ruin your family time.
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Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 09-16-2011 - 2:38pm

I would tell her out right you took them with the knowledge the boys would be picked up at a certain time. If they leave later than that agreed time tell her she owes you xx amount of dollars per child per hour they are left after the agreed upon time. As for the behavior maybe find after school places to go like a park or craft time inside. Also explain the boys your house rules and if they don't follow them then they get a time out. If parent dosen't like the time out tell her of the child's behavior. You are doing a favor by watching the kids. My friend does day care and she even gives them a time out if they don't follow the rules.