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| Sat, 04-10-2004 - 5:10pm |
I have a boy who just turned 3 and i swear he is not only a high maintainance kid, but he is so horrible. i know this post is going to sound horrible. but i have tried everything. he is making the whole familiy in an uproar now. i have 3 other kids and we are all just so sick of it. no need in explaining everything he does, but it's just not good. i have no more control. and he knows it. he does not take naps and hasn't since 1. if he does end up falling asleep in the car or something then the night bed time is ruined at like 10 pm. i have no extra time. my husband works 12 hour days. and i am a sahm/wahm. i also work from home. so it's been very hard. daycare is so expensive and that is mostly why i am at home w/ them. i am getting desperate. i mean i've even voiced such things like 'can't we give him up for adoption?' i know it's horrible. please don't blast my post. i am so desperate. it's either me or him. something's gotta give. i don't want to beat my kid but i can see where this stuff happens now. i am home with them (all 4) today and i'm even trying to do fun things. everything turns out be a nightmare. we baked cookies, they burned. we did an egg hunt. that is still going on somewhat. i have no time for me and i'm just downright sick of it. it's saturday for godsake! ok. that's enough venting. anyone have any suggestions or in my situation? i've even thought of giving him to my MIL to take care of him for a few months. she's 3000 miles away!!! ugh. thanks for listening this far..

Hi--
He may be acting out for attention. My son, now 4, acts out sometimes. He stopped napping at 18 months, and is demanding on time as well. But I really don't know much about your situation, except he won't sleep and you seem frustrated with his behavior.
If it is that bad, try seeing a child psychologist. I'm sure they see cases like this all the time!
I also work from home and sometimes it does seem worse then it is because I am trying to get things done. Remember why you work from home, and maybe restructure your work hours and try spending more time with him and showing him you love him.
Good luck!
Debbie
Debbie LaCroix, SAHM to Alex
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I can totally understand your frustrations.........I have 3 kids at home all 4 & under & sometimes I feel like I'm losing it with my 3 year old little boy. I can't even imagine if I had to also work from home, no way could I do that. I will say that everytime I try to do too much (other than entertain them), they seem to act worse, so maybe some of it is attention seeking.........however............it sounds like there may possibly be more going on with him. Try taking him to his primary doctor first & see what he says & then perhaps he will refer him for an evaluation. He may be perfectly fine. I know boys are very difficult. I had a nephew that I swear would never stop destroying things in my brother's house. I think they thought of the adoption thing a few times.
Also, you may also want to try taking a little time off work (if you can) & try spending lots of one on one time with him & see if it makes a difference. I think if the pressure of having to work at home were lifted, you would feel better. And almost always if Mama feels good, the kids feel good, & vise-versa. That's the way it is here anyway.
One more suggestion would be trying an antidepressant for yourself to take the edge off (I'm in the process of doing that for myself) or an occasional anti-anxiety pill.
Hope this helps & good luck.
Tanya