Feeling like a hermit

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Registered: 01-20-2007
Feeling like a hermit
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Sat, 01-20-2007 - 2:28pm

Ok I am a stay at home mom, and I do love it. I couldn't be blessed with a better husband or children. However, lately I feel like I am a prisoner in my own home. What do you do when you feel as though you are going to go insane if you don't get some time for yourself?

I would love for us to just go out for dinner or a movie, but by the time my husband gets home from work he just wants to sit and rest. How should I approach this? Thanks!

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Sat, 01-20-2007 - 2:35pm

I highly recommend girls only activities like taking a cooking class once a week or joining a book club.




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Sat, 01-20-2007 - 3:07pm
I have the same feelings at home with my husband. When he gets home from work, I am so happy becauseI just want to get out of the house, and he'll tell me he's had a long day and juts wants to be home. It can get frustrating, I finally brought it up to my husband, and made the point of telling him, you work all day and then leave your job and come home, I work all day and at the end of the day I am home, and that I actually live at my job, and it doesn't stop after an 8 hour shift. It seemed to put it into perspective for him, and he has been trying to be more understanding, if he's tired after work and wants to stay home, I will go out either with a friend or even by myself sometimes is nice too, and then we try to still get some time to go out the 2 of us, of course these times a very rare, but at least its something, and I don't feel completely crazy. I have a 2 yr old and another baby due in May, and I am worried that after the 2nd is born I'm going to be back to being housebound and going nuts again, as much as I love being home with my daughter, I also feel like I'm climbing the walls every now and then!

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Sat, 01-20-2007 - 5:02pm
I agree with Vanasa. Try to get out once in a while on your own and let your husband take care of your children if for only an hour or two. It will make you feel so much better to get a break and it will help your husband to appreciate your job even more. Even just going for a walk by yourself is a great way to re-energize. And if you can find a friend that's able to go on walks with you a couple times a week, even better! HTH!
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Sat, 01-20-2007 - 6:01pm
Mary and Vanasa both had some great ideas!
I've been in the same boat as you lately... we only have one car, and my dh works 25-30 minutes away. Taking him to work and keeping the car is a chore. Lately it's been so cold and rainy that it's been hard to do anything enjoyable anyway.
I think tonight I'm going to let him watch the kids while I go soak in the tub for an hour and hide from everyone lol.

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Registered: 01-20-2007
Sun, 01-21-2007 - 3:10am

Thanks you all for replying. They were all great suggestions. As soon as I read them, I went online to look for some classes. I am seriously thinking about signing up for a pottery class.

I worry sometimes that my need to be out is a selfish one. I know that my husband works hard to provide for our family, but honestly sometimes it seems that a stay at home mom's job is a thankless one. Lol, I honestly feel that it is one of the hardest jobs out there, and we need to be on a payroll!

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Sun, 01-21-2007 - 7:46am
Well my situation is different, my husband is hardly home he works and is going to school full time, and then we switch after he's done I will be going to school, and hopefully working as well. So in these situations, i pack up the kids and leave, I go out to the movies, to the mall, to visit my one and only friend. As long as i can get out of the house I am fine. Being a SAHM doesn't mean you have to confine yourself to your home. Get out, do something. Be sponatneous, that's always fun for us. Once in awhile, like once a year, I have great in-laws(sarcasm), we get a break from our kids, and enjoy each other, I'm talking about my husband and I. that's what i do to feel normal again!!
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Registered: 03-25-2005
Sun, 01-21-2007 - 1:00pm

It is not selfish to realize there is a need that has to be fulfilled in your life.




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