Feeling lonely
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| Fri, 01-19-2007 - 12:27pm |
Hi ladies,
Since I had my daugher in Aug 2005, I have been feeling really lonely and stressed out at times. I have small bouts of happiness but otherwise feel exausted, stressed, overwhelmed with household chores and so and and so forth. I dont have many close girlfriends and I have zero mommy friends.
My daughter belongs to a gymboree class but it is small and I have tried to start up conversations with other moms but it never really leads to anything. I feel bad because I feel like my daughter is missing out.
I sometimes feel that there is something wrong with me, I very often feel isolated and alone. I have tried conveying this to my husband and he just doesnt get it.
I would love to at least have one mommy friend to go out for coffee and have playdates with. What is wrong with me, why cant i meet other moms? I swear I am friendly and I dont come across as desperate. When I was younger I had zero problems meeting guys, and getting tons of dates but when it comes to women I dont know they seem very picky and some are just plain mean and others cliquey.
I also wanted to add, I lost 60 pounds it took me a year to lose it, and I thought maybe it would help with making me feel more confident and making friends more easily, but it hasnt.
Any advice for me please?
Thanks ladies...
Monica
Edited 1/19/2007 12:35 pm ET by mom2babydanielle
Edited 1/19/2007 12:36 pm ET by mom2babydanielle


HUGS Monica.
Thanks soo much for your sweet post! You also made me feel better to know that Im not alone in feeling this way.
I go to storytime with my daughter once a week and I dont think she's old enough to enjoy it, she usually runs off to look for books lol. I do enjoy it though, because it gets me out of the house!
I live in Queens, NY. I sometimes wish I lived in a warmer climate, I am definitely a beach and outdoorsy kinda gal :)
I made a lot of friends at my old job and they would come to visit and call but I dont hear from them much anymore. I guess I cant blame them though, they are all a few years younger than me and single.
I would head out today but its very cold out and it actually snowed a little this morning, and my daughter has a cold and I dont want her to get worse. We're taking her to the dr this evening.
Edited 1/19/2007 1:04 pm ET by mom2babydanielle
I sometimes feel this same way. I get very shy too and have a tendency to withdrawl rather than interact. I had acquaintences when I was working but they were either much older than me, or my age and single, or my age and married/in a relationship but with no intentions of having kids. Being married with kids is a completely different mindframe so it is hard to become really close when the biggest thing in your life is not a common factor. I had made one really good friend and we did a lot together. She was married and trying for children so she really loved being around Noah and Noah loved being around her and she was a great person for me to be friends with. But she just recently moved far, far away