Feeling lonely

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Feeling lonely
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 12:27pm

Hi ladies,
Since I had my daugher in Aug 2005, I have been feeling really lonely and stressed out at times. I have small bouts of happiness but otherwise feel exausted, stressed, overwhelmed with household chores and so and and so forth. I dont have many close girlfriends and I have zero mommy friends.
My daughter belongs to a gymboree class but it is small and I have tried to start up conversations with other moms but it never really leads to anything. I feel bad because I feel like my daughter is missing out.
I sometimes feel that there is something wrong with me, I very often feel isolated and alone. I have tried conveying this to my husband and he just doesnt get it.
I would love to at least have one mommy friend to go out for coffee and have playdates with. What is wrong with me, why cant i meet other moms? I swear I am friendly and I dont come across as desperate. When I was younger I had zero problems meeting guys, and getting tons of dates but when it comes to women I dont know they seem very picky and some are just plain mean and others cliquey.
I also wanted to add, I lost 60 pounds it took me a year to lose it, and I thought maybe it would help with making me feel more confident and making friends more easily, but it hasnt.
Any advice for me please?

Thanks ladies...
Monica

Edited 1/19/2007 12:35 pm ET by mom2babydanielle




Edited 1/19/2007 12:36 pm ET by mom2babydanielle
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 12:42pm

HUGS Monica.

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 1:02pm
Hi Michelle,
Thanks soo much for your sweet post! You also made me feel better to know that Im not alone in feeling this way.
I go to storytime with my daughter once a week and I dont think she's old enough to enjoy it, she usually runs off to look for books lol. I do enjoy it though, because it gets me out of the house!
I live in Queens, NY. I sometimes wish I lived in a warmer climate, I am definitely a beach and outdoorsy kinda gal :)
I made a lot of friends at my old job and they would come to visit and call but I dont hear from them much anymore. I guess I cant blame them though, they are all a few years younger than me and single.
I would head out today but its very cold out and it actually snowed a little this morning, and my daughter has a cold and I dont want her to get worse. We're taking her to the dr this evening.



Edited 1/19/2007 1:04 pm ET by mom2babydanielle
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 1:39pm
I have been in your situation and am now sort of there again. We moved to a small town ( less than 2000) and it is hard to break into the mommy clicks. Just keep joining in and remember the older your child get and the more activities she is involved in the more people you will meet.
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Registered: 08-12-2003
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 2:15pm

I sometimes feel this same way. I get very shy too and have a tendency to withdrawl rather than interact. I had acquaintences when I was working but they were either much older than me, or my age and single, or my age and married/in a relationship but with no intentions of having kids. Being married with kids is a completely different mindframe so it is hard to become really close when the biggest thing in your life is not a common factor. I had made one really good friend and we did a lot together. She was married and trying for children so she really loved being around Noah and Noah loved being around her and she was a great person for me to be friends with. But she just recently moved far, far away

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