Feeling lonely....

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Registered: 05-09-2003
Feeling lonely....
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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 5:50pm
Hi,

I've been a sahm for 13 months now. My son is 13 months old and I'm expecting our second in February/March. I love staying home and feel lucky to do so. However, money is VERY tight, so we don't get out much. I'm usually always with my son or husband. I have a couple friends - but some I've lost touch with over time, and others are just on a different track. Two of my best friends - they're roommates, and are very career oriented. Neither really wants or likes kids, and both are single. When we do get together, I feel like we have nothing in common anymore. They're off making money, traveling, and doing all sorts of things. While I'm home. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't change a thing. I would rather be with my son than anything, but it doesn't make for great conversation, if you know what I mean - So what have you been up to? - Oh, playing with toys and watching teletubbies.... I'd like to make some friends who are in similar situations and have similar goals, but I can't seem to meet anyone, or to go from an acquaintance to a friend. I've joined a playgroup, which meets once a week, and that's nice. But I'd like to have some "girlfriends" to commiserate with, and who understand what it's like to be a sahm, and have children, husbands, etc. Has anyone else felt this way or have any advice? Thanks

Jen

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Registered: 06-11-2004
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 7:45pm
Hi Jen! Welcome to the board! I know exactly how you feel. When my first child was born, I had no friends with children. I had to make all new friends...it took awhile but it was worth it! It's so nice to be able to talk to other moms who are going thru the same things. I think joining a playgroup is a great start. If you don't "click" with those moms right away, maybe you will after you've been together for awhile or maybe you'll find another group you have more in common with. I joined a moms group, playgroup, mommy and me classes, storytimes, hung out at the park...anything just to meet other moms. Many of the moms I've met have become really good friends for both me and the kids. And the nice thing is there are so many activities for kids that don't cost a thing. Now that your son is getting older, it will be alot easier to get out and get involved in activities with him where you'll be able to meet other moms.

Good luck!

Gwen